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I met some lovely new people at a picnic gathering yesterday; reminded me of today’s feature article. I hope you are all finding the time and inspiration to reach out and make new friends.
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The new June horoscopes were posted to the website a couple of weeks ago. Here are the links...
Taurus Astrology and Free June Horoscopes
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Scorpio Astrology and Free June Horoscopes
Sagittarius Astrology and Free June Horoscopes
Capricorn Astrology and Free June Horoscopes
Aquarius Astrology and Free June Horoscopes
Pisces Astrology and Free June Horoscopes
Astrology and Free June Horoscopes for all of the Zodiac Signs
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The free (generic) annual astrological overviews have been posted to the website...
Taurus 2015 Annual Horoscope
Gemini 2015 Annual Horoscope
Cancer 2015 Annual Horoscope
Leo 2015 Annual Horoscope
Virgo 2015 Annual Horoscope
Libra 2015 Annual Horoscope
Scorpio 2015 Annual Horoscope
Sagittarius 2015 Annual Horoscope
Capricorn 2015 Annual Horoscope
Aquarius 2015 Annual Horoscope
Pisces 2015 Annual Horoscope
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Quote of the Week:
You can understand and relate to most people better if you look at them -- no matter how old or impressive they may be -- as if they are children. For most of us never really grow up or mature all that much -- we simply grow taller. O, to be sure, we laugh less and play less and wear uncomfortable disguises like adults, but beneath the costume is the child we always are, whose needs are simple, whose daily life is still best described by fairy tales. - Leo Rosten
So what do we do? Anything, something, so long as we just don't sit there. If we screw it up, start over. Try something else. If we wait until we've satisfied all the uncertainties, it may be too late. - Lee Iacocca, Chrysler Corporation CEO
Courage is not the lack of fear. It is acting in spite of it. - Mark Twain
Feature Article of the Week:
How do we make friends? More importantly if dropped into a new city or a new job or a new school, how do we go about making new friends? Most of us don’t really think about it, but just sort of allow people to float in and out of our lives without really paying any attention to how we pull new people into our lives.
Years ago, my son was four-years-old and starting preschool. He had been begging to go for about a year and was thrilled that he was finally there. He had longed to play on their playground. He really loved all of the noise and commotion of such a large daycare center. The sight of all those other children running around, laughing, and playing fascinated him. He was so excited to dive in and start hanging out with those other children. He was naturally outgoing and energetic, and had wonderful social skills so I knew he would get along just fine. I was a bit surprised when he came up to me after a few weeks and said that he was really struggling because as the new kid he did not have any friends.
“How do I get some friends to play with me?”
I told him that every week I would give him a new assignment. I explained to him that you do not want to run through these steps too fast because it makes people nervous and they will push you away. You want to give them time to adjust to you as you go through these steps.
For the first week, all he had to do was smile a nice big smile and say, “Hi!” He needed to walk around saying “Hi!” to teachers and students alike; whoever seemed cool in his opinion. He did not have to be a geek about it and say “Hi!” to everyone; just those he thought seemed kind of interesting. This gives people the impression that you are an upbeat positive person, but not too pushy. Greet them every day with a smile on your face.
For the second week, he had to start adding their names to the cheerful greeting. When you see someone you like, smile real big and say “Hi Joey!” or “Hi Suzy!” or “Hi Anthony!” Start learning their names and adding those names to your greetings. This way they are already used to your pleasant greetings and it just personalizes it a bit. Greet them with a personalized greeting every day.
For the third week, I told him to give them an honest compliment along with the greeting. Do not make it something big and embarrassing, but something small and comfortable for them to hear you say aloud in front of others. “Hi Joey! I love your Ninja Turtle T-shirt!” or “Hi Suzy! I really like the way you color within the lines, looks great!” or “Hi Anthony! Nice haircut dude!” The key to this step is honesty. You have to find something you truly like about the person to compliment. People get an odd feeling and on some level can sense when others are being fake or insincere with them. Be honest, be upbeat, and personalize the greeting and the compliment. Again, do it every day. Consistency really matters. You are not just making them feel good about themselves, but creating a public image of yourself as a consistently upbeat positive person.
For the fourth week, I was going to have him include an invitation to play with him in with his greetings, but he never got that far. He was having such a good time with all of his new friends that he never really bothered with any more lessons. He was very popular and well-loved from that point on.
Every time he has changed schools or neighborhoods or gone away to camp or whatever, he has always used that same system to make new friends. It is foolproof and always works for him. Now that he is a young adult, he simply walks up to strangers, flashes them his best grin in a charming and almost clown-like manner. He hams it up like a beloved comedian and delivers whatever silly greeting will make people laugh. It is fun to watch him.
Can we as adults do the same thing? I know that if I really look at my own behaviors, the times that friends have seemed a bit scarce were when I was not doing a lot of reaching out and greeting them. If I was not personalizing my conversations towards them and I was not handing out the compliments, then new people did not seem to stick around and develop into friendships. Most people are a lot more insecure and shy than they let on, and they really feel good when someone else notices them enough to learn their name and to greet them with a real compliment. It usually makes them feel comfortable enough to respond and to begin opening up.
It is a really simple exercise: consistently greet them, personalize the greeting, and then add a compliment to the greeting, if you aren’t friends by then, offer an invitation along with the greeting. People love to feel likeable. This system lets them know that you think they are likeable without making you feel like an uncomfortable nerd. It is slow enough paced to not be forced, unnatural, or pushy. We humans have funny little behavioral rules and rituals that we follow instinctively. We feel uneasy when someone does not approach us the right way. Deep down, a lot of people are skittish and easily spooked away. Give them time to check you out. It is amazing how beautifully this works.
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