Skye Thomas

Skye Thomas
Writer, Rebel, and Soapbox Ranter

Wednesday, April 01, 2015

What If I Fall Flat On My Face? - Looking Up Newsletter

April 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

I hope you are all enjoying lovely spring weather and finding time to spend with family and friends.

take care,
Skye Thomas


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Quote of the Week:

Many a man has finally succeeded only because he has failed after repeated efforts. If he had never met defeat he would never have known any great victory. - Orison Swett Marden

Nothing great has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside them was superior to circumstances. - Bruce Barton, advertising executive

Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives. - Anthony Robbins



Feature Article of the Week:


What If I Fall Flat On My Face?

I know what you’re thinking, “What if I fall flat on my face?” I hope you do. Sounds awful, I know. But I really think the best thing that can happen to you is for you to take a timid little leap and fall flat on your face. Then, I want to see you get back up, evaluate what you did wrong, and jump again. Keep on taking that leap of faith and learning from each and every mistake until you become used to jumping and used to falling. Then, you will get over the fear of falling and you will finally begin to concentrate on flying. I want to see you run with everything you have and dive into your dreams with so much passion and fire that you forget all about the possibility of failing. You will never find your wings until you do.

The fear of failure is a cruel and stupid trick we pull on ourselves. The fact that the fear of failure stops us from going after our goals and dreams means that we have already failed. I ask you this, who cares if you fail? Brilliant people fail every single day. Brave tenacious people fall flat on their faces and even get laughed at every single day. Consider the soldiers coming home from wars with physical ailments that require extensive rehabilitation. How many mornings do they wake up hoping they will be able to walk again and then go to bed having failed yet again? Great people, we love them. They are not going to let a little thing like yesterday’s failure stop them from working hard again today. They are an inspiration to all of us. The news agencies do not report on what failures they are for not succeeding, but on how inspirational their stories are as they keep pushing themselves towards achieving their goals. Who planted that stupid idea in our heads that we have to be successful at every single thing every single day in order to be likeable?

What is failure anyway? In my eyes, the returning soldiers are definitely not failures. Nobody with that much tenacity, focus, and drive is failing. They are real heroes. You have not failed until you have given up trying. As long as you are still taking leaps of faith, you are still a winner. Failure, like everything else, has its breaking point. At some point, if you hit at it in the same spot over and over again it eventually breaks. How many light bulbs did Thomas Edison make before he got it right? Most people do not know the answer to that question because they do not care how many times he failed before he finally succeeded. In Edison’s own words, “I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.” He kept learning from each attempt, adapted his plans to fit the new information, stayed the course, held the dream, and did not let the fear of failure or the fear of other people’s ridicule stop him.

One of the reasons that I think we hear so many stories of immigrants coming to this country and making it big is because they were raised on stories of the ability to create whatever kind of life you envision for yourself here. It is as if all of the stories they heard about how everyone has the right to succeed in America overrides any self-doubt they might have had. They do not have a fear of failure so they just roll up their sleeves and get to work making their dreams come true. Sure, they stumble and fall and learn a few lessons along the way, but they certainly do not give up and quit.

Are you afraid of what other people are going to think of you if you fail? Have you ever met a truly impressive person that got there by playing it ultra-safe? People who do not take risks are seldom if ever cheered, admired, or in the limelight. Besides, Americans love an underdog. We love to see some scrappy go-getter who has no business thinking they can win. We love to watch that same person stumble and fall a few times only to pick themselves up and really make something of themselves. It is the American Dream. Hollywood knows it. They have made an entire industry of showing us the stories of underdogs who dust themselves off and finally become winners. Nobody pays money to watch a movie about some perfect person who designs a perfect dream and experiences a flawless life while accomplishing everything they set out to do easily and effortlessly. Boooooring! We do not like people who come across as too perfect anyway. So go ahead and fail, it gives us a reason to pay attention to you, to relate to you, and to cheer you on.

One of the best pieces of advice I was ever given on this subject was back in high school when I was first learning how to water-ski. I had mastered the basics and could get up on a single ski and maneuver my way back and forth behind the boat without falling down. I was not able to do any fancy tricks, but I could get up and stay up. I was told, “If you aren’t falling down, then you aren’t trying very hard. You are playing it safe, staying in your comfort zone. You aren’t getting any better.” That pushed me to get past my fear of falling. I forced myself to go faster than I was comfortable with, to lean deeper, to catch a bit of air, to cut across bigger wakes, to trudge across choppier waves, etc. Nothing too dangerous, just a bit more here and there than what I felt was safe and do-able. I fell down a lot and got pretty banged up. I beat the heck out of my poor body that summer, but I also made impressive gains in my ability to master the sport. Nobody talked about how many times I fell nor how black and blue I was, they only talked about how fast I was learning and what a great job I was doing. My teacher would sit back with a self-satisfied smirk on his face because only he knew how hard it had been for me to push past that comfort zone to allow myself permission to fall down. Nothing beats taking that big bite out of life and having it bite back just a bit! Laugh it off and dive in again.

If the goal you have is big enough and challenging enough that you could fall flat on your face, then chances are pretty good that you will fall on your face or at least stumble and lose your footing here and there along the way. If I could promise you that you would only fail twice and on the third attempt you would succeed, then would you go ahead and suffer through the first two failures in order to get to that third time? Of course, you would. What if I told you that the first three attempts will end in failure and people will mock you for thinking that you had any chance of success, but that on the fourth attempt you will not only succeed, but those that mocked you will be cheering for you and saying how proud they are to know you? Would you suffer the first three humiliating failures in order to get to the fourth successful attempt? Of course, you would. So let’s get the falling out of the way so we can get on with the flying. And no, I am not saying that failing is a mandatory step on the way towards success, only that it is not as relevant as we are taught to believe.


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