Skye Thomas

Skye Thomas
Writer, Rebel, and Soapbox Ranter

Monday, October 01, 2012

Feeling Forgettable - Looking Up Newsletter

October 1st, 2012
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

I had to go to the Department of Motor Vehicles this morning. I arrived about five minutes before they opened and stood in line outside with everyone else. There were only about 30 people in line ahead of me. Yet, it took an hour before it was my turn to conduct business. My transaction took three whole minutes. The good news: I paid off my car loan and now have a clean and clear title. Yea!

take care,
Skye Thomas

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Quote of the Week:

The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration. - Pearl S Buck

You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make. - Jane Goodall

Tug on anything at all and you'll find it connected to everything else in the universe. - John Muir

Feature Article of the Week:

Feeling Forgettable

My teenage daughter reminded me of something the other night. We were talking about things that were going on at school. She is in a drama class and is one of the teacher’s favorite students. However, when assigning roles for an upcoming show the students are putting on, the teacher completely forgot to put my daughter on the list. This was not one of those big school plays that students try out for and hope to get a role. This was a mandatory class project and was the equivalent of their mid-term or final exam. The teacher assigned each child to a group and the groups were assigned one-act plays to direct, rehearse, and then perform in front of the parents. My daughter was shocked that as one of the favorites in the class, that the teacher had completely forgotten to put her on the roster. She was frustrated because she ended up with a boring group doing a boring role while the rest of the teacher’s favorites had all been hand-picked for starring roles. She was not at all angry, just frustrated that the teacher would have forgotten her and therefore she ended up in a lesser role.

I told her that I had always been the same way… a student that was well liked by the teachers but completely forgettable. She then went on to say that she thinks that if she went back to any of the teachers that she had just two years ago, that they would not be able to remember her name. She feels completely forgettable. She knows that she is a good person, but that she is easily forgotten. Her friends forget to invite her to their get-togethers. Laughing together, we compared stories of being forgotten. I told her that my career in Corporate America was full of those kinds of stories where bosses would forget that I even existed at promotion time, yet would say how much they counted on me because I was so reliable and dependable. Such is the life of the good little worker-bee who does not cause problems and does not jump up and down saying, “Look at me! Look at me!” Show up on time every day, do your job well, stay out of trouble, remain likeable and politically neutral, and what do you get for it? Forgotten. Nobody remembers that you were ever there.

Does it matter? Does that mean anything in the big context of your life? Yes and no. If you have goals that involve promotions and somehow getting the public to acknowledge you, then yes it matters very much. You will not be able to follow your dreams if you stay in this forgettable state. If you have a full life, love what you do for a living, do not require any attention or recognition in order to advance within your chosen field, and you are secure in yourself, then no, it does not matter if they forget you the minute you walk out of the room. For a teenage girl wanting some popularity and notoriety, it matters. That same girl wants to be a doctor someday. Will being forgettable stop her? No, not likely. If you work in sales, the entertainment industry, or as a politician then yes being forgettable is career suicide. If you work in research industries, daycare, bill collections, nursing, or clerical positions then it really would not matter all that much if you are an unforgettable person or not. It really just depends on your career and what you want to do with it.

It matters most, in your personal life. If your friends and family forget that you exist, then unless you are an extreme introvert, you are going to have problems. It is one thing to be forgotten by your boss and coworkers, it is quite another thing to be forgotten by your family and friends. Most people in that situation end up feeling isolated, alone, and unlovable. Unfortunately, this also causes depression, self-esteem issues, and can lead to substance abuse. There is nothing worse than feeling as if nobody would notice or care if you dropped off the face of the earth tomorrow. Humans are social creatures. We were never designed to be hermits. We require positive loving contact with others. We need to travel in packs with like-minded folks who care about us. There is nothing more powerful than knowing that someone’s life has been deeply touched by you and that your existence makes someone’s little corner of the world a more beautiful place.

On some level, whether for career purposes or for our own socialization needs, we need to know that we are not completely forgettable. How do we become unforgettable? The easiest way to know that you will never be forgotten is to be as mean and ugly as you possibly can. Being a jerk makes people think about you, plot their life around avoiding you, and they naturally will bring up your name in conversations. Until the day I die, I will never forget a bill collector that was in charge of my school loans. Not because she was a bill collector, I have known many and have even been one for a few years. I have nothing against them and I do not think they are bad people. They have a tough job to do and they have to do it. I will always remember her because she made my life a living hell for about five years. She was dishonest, unethical, and unnecessarily cruel. Yes, I know that you do not want to be like that, but let us be honest. We all know people who are horribly mean for no good reason and they are unforgettable because of it.

The other route you can take is to be more than just a good kind dependable worker-bee. Be more than just a quiet loyal family member who does not bother others with your problems. You have to become bright with an inner light that people cannot quite explain. It comes from an inner source that cannot be taught. Think about the truly wonderful unforgettable people in your life, the ones who touched your heart in a way that you will never forget. They all have that mysterious something within that shines outward like a beacon of light for the rest of us. It can be an at-home mom that is strong, happy, and proud of her choices. It can be a teacher that changes troubled teens lives by igniting their self-confidence. It can be an employee who truly loves the company, their job, and is a dynamic source of positive office morale. It can be a teenage boy who is not afraid to walk up to a group of fellow students and with a big beaming smile, arms spread wide open ready for a hug from the girls, and just say “Hello ladies!” in that ridiculous way that makes them laugh. It is a combination of healthy self-esteem, a feeling of purpose and direction, and a willingness to share their love and light with everyone they meet. The combination is magnetic and unforgettable.

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