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Monday, July 23, 2012

Coping with ADHD: The Beingness within a Restless Soul - Looking Up Newsletter

July 23rd, 2012
Looking Up Newsletter

Good morning,

I know a young adult with ADHD. They are going through a tough adjustment while transitioning between teenager and adult.

Today's feature article is not only for those young people in the same stage of life, but also for those of you that know and/or love an ADHD person.

And it probably applies to just about anyone that has ever felt "different" and unloved for being "authentic".

It gets better.


take care,
Skye Thomas

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Quote of the Week:

When the mind is thinking it is talking to itself. - Plato

There is not a more mean, stupid, dastardly, pitiful, selfish, spiteful, envious, ungrateful animal than the Public. It is the greatest of cowards, for it is afraid of itself. - William Hazlitt

Resolve says, 'I will.' The man says, 'I will climb this mountain. They told me it is too high, too far, too steep, too rocky and too difficult. But it's my mountain. I will climb it. You will soon see me waving from the top or dead on the side from trying.' - Jim Rohn



Feature Article of the Week:


The Beingness within a Restless Soul

What does it mean to have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder? It means that your spirit is bigger than your body. It means that no matter how perfect your life is in this moment, that soon a small voice will begin to haunt you asking, "Is this it? Is there nothing more?" It is not that you feel entitled or that you are selfish and gluttonous. It is the fact that your body is incapable of maintaining a state of contentment no matter how much your mind might think that you are being illogical. Your body is stir-crazy. Your body seems to have a mind of its own that causes even the most logical and conservative of brains to have to fight like crazy to regain any sense of quiet and tranquility. It means that you are forever searching and hungering for some unobtainable indescribable something that haunts your soul.

It means that when you are a child and a teenager that your peers love your zest for life, your enthusiasm, and your ability to jump into games, relationships, and new adventures with gusto. It means that when you hit your late-twenties that people begin to ask why you are not growing up yet. Why aren't you maturing? Why aren't you settling down? Why aren't you conforming to society's standards of conduct? Why aren't you becoming more lethargic like the rest of us? To which you will initially respond, "Isn't the real question, why are you choosing to become so boring, mundane, and uninspiring?" They will shake their head and walk away, thinking that you are simply immature.

It means that even if you are able to force yourself to sit through years of mind-numbingly boring college classes, that you will still be insanely bored when you go out and get that "real job" that grown ups are supposed to get. It means that if you are successful you will be miserable while shackled to a desk during most of your waking hours. It means that if you rebel and follow your bliss that you will still be miserable because they will judge you, avoid you, mock you, and they certainly won't love you for your charming zestful personality, although, some may love you at an arm's distance in spite of your annoying mannerisms and behavioral issues.

It means that you can take prescription pills to try and soothe the restlessness within your body, but that is only if you can afford them and they do not cause you all kinds of other side effects. Even if you find the right chemical cocktail to sedate your body without sedating your intelligence, creativity, and passion for living, those little pills never take away the knowingness that people do not like the real you, only the sedated watered down version of you.

It means that as an old man or as an old woman, that you are more fun than your peers. It means that they will again love you for your spontaneity and spunk. It means that you will have stories worth telling. It means that you will have said yes to more things that gave you joy and therefore you have less regrets about having said no too many times. It means that you learned compassion for others at an early age. It means that you never had to ask a life coach how to feel passion, how to live your bliss, or how to put more fire into a marriage. It means that you probably inspired at least a few people to come out of their shell, to try new things, to laugh aloud, or to at least not be so afraid of being a bit unique once in a while.

It means that unlike a lot of other people, you know exactly what is wrong with you and exactly what is right with you. You do not go through life lying to yourself pretending that you are "normal" or that you are without flaws. You face your personal challenges at a young age and in some ways that makes it easier, because you are less likely to have a crisis of identity in midlife. You are less likely to compromise away all that is important to you, because you are incapable of ignoring that which you love. While others are losing bits and pieces of their soul along the way, always compromising, you are still steadfastly aware of exactly who you are, what you want, and how you hope to achieve your goals.

It means that your loved ones do not have to ask and wonder about how you feel, what you think, or if you still love them. They know that you are angry when you are angry, you are happy when you are happy, you are bored and restless when you are bored and restless, etc. They know how you feel and what you think because you are not very good at hiding it. It means that you face your problems in the moment and that you do not pretend they don't exist while they fester and grow into something destructive. You are the canary in a coalmine within dysfunctional families always shining a light on reality and never being able to pretend that everything is okay when it is not.

It means that you are good under pressure because the adrenaline rush is self-medicating. It means that you are comfortable when multitasking because it entertains you more than monotonously doing just one thing at a time. It means that you are not going to be a boring parent, but one that helps your child find adventures to enjoy. It means that as the rest of the world ages, they will grow up and come to see that you really were quite charming and entertaining all along. They will eventually come to see that they were no happier with their calm, quiet, and tactful lives than you were with your eccentric choices.

It means that you make peace with boredom. You learn to accept the fact that boredom is a chemical brew coursing through your veins and that you can find short-term distractions to help you forget that boredom is ever-present, but like the colored water that turns the white carnations into a rainbow of colors, it is in your cells and it is not going away. It colors you. It makes you more of who you already are. It makes you incapable of ever becoming one of those overly routined, boring, and passionless people that deep down make no sense at all to you.

It means that if your brain can find ways to compromise with your body's mind of its own, then you can tap into a creative brilliance that might even help you to succeed in a delightful career of your own making, in your own time, in your own way. And then they will suddenly call you genius, lucky, and inspired. They will tell you how brave you are for marching to your own drummer when in reality; you were incapable of anything else.

And it means that even if you wallow in self-pity, depression, or self-loathing, that this too will eventually become boring and you will move on to focus on something else, because negative emotions do not hold your attention and therefore, they cannot hold you down. You will always bounce back, because not bouncing back takes too much effort. While others might get stuck in their darker moods, you will always become aware of how much work it actually takes to maintain a state of darkness. It takes a lot of work to refuse to see the daylight shining through the cracks. It takes a lot of work to constantly reaffirm that a dark mood is warranted. You will always eventually grow impatient with darkness and will naturally seek the light.

You will come to realize that you have always sought the light and like a child trying to hold on to rays of sunlight, you will come to realize that it is not something tangible that you can hold, it is a lightness of being that you seek. And eventually, you will find a peaceful balance between restlessness and lightness. You can be both at the same time. It creates a lovely kind of electricity of its own, an inner power of sorts.

It means that at some point along the way, you will secretly thank your lucky stars that you have ADHD and that you are not living a "normal" life.


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Copyright 2012, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge






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