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This is the first week of summer vacation for my youngest son. During the final days of school, he won a family pass to our beloved San Diego Zoo in a raffle. Tomorrow we're off to see the penguins, pandas, and pelicans.
I hope you are all finding time to play this summer while the weather is nice.
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The 2013 yearly overviews have been posted to the website. Here are the links...
Taurus 2013 Yearly Horoscope
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Aquarius 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Pisces 2013 Yearly Horoscope
Personalized versions of the 2013 Overviews are also available...
The June monthly forecasts were sent out to the subscribers and posted to the website. Here are the links (hit refresh if the new forecasts do not show up)...
Taurus June 2012 Horoscope
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Cancer June 2012 Horoscope
Leo June 2012 Horoscope
Virgo June 2012 Horoscope
Libra June 2012 Horoscope
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Capricorn June 2012 Horoscope
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Quote of the Week:
A child is a curly dimpled lunatic. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Lying increases the creative faculties, expands the ego, and lessens the frictions of social contacts. - Clare Boothe Luce
We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today. - Stacia Tauscher
Feature Article of the Week:
This statement has stopped many a war in my house. My oldest two children are two years apart in age and would fight about everything and nothing when they were little. One would anger the other and then deny that it ever happened. One would accidentally harm the other during play and not want to accept responsibility for the other's anger. Seldom did a day pass by that one of them was not screaming at the other for some horrible crime. It never failed when I would be brought in to mediate, they would both claim they were innocent and the other was bad. How many times did one of them try to convince me that the other was lying and just trying to frame them for a crime they did not commit. What's a parent to do?
I believe very strongly in teaching my children to be accountable for their actions and choices. I want them to have their eyes wide open and to know full well that when they make a bad choice, bad things are likely to happen. And when they make good choices, that good things are likely to happen. I have worked hard to get them to grasp the concept that if you treat people badly, they will not like you. Also, do not mess with other people's stuff without asking. It doesn't matter if you are "a beautiful child of God", nobody will want to hang out with you, if you tick them off. Simple facts of life, but I do not see it being taught in today's society as much as I would like. They say that we learn our social skills from our siblings and the neighborhood children. We mimic what our parents role model for us, but we research its effectiveness on our peers.
One of the things I hated most in my own childhood was being forced to apologize for things I did not do. I also hated being forced to apologize when I was simply defending my person or my property from a known attacker, mainly my younger sister and brother. I have also had too many adults in my life apologize for things they were not sorry for and then later they just repeated the same actions over and over again. When people say they are sorry, I often think to myself, "Good, then don't do it again." Changing the behavior is so much more important to me then just offering up the words, "I'm sorry." I wanted to teach my children that you should never offer fake apologies and you should only apologize when you really mean it. However, I also wanted them to take responsibility for the environment of anger that they were helping to create. Somehow, I had to find the perfect peace-making face-saving way to teach all of these concepts.
What I finally stumbled across was a twisted compromise. When you are feeling falsely accused of something and the other person will not back down, then you simply say, "If I hurt you, then I'm sorry." Then you bite your tongue, hard. Don't say another word. Don't snicker and don't sneer. Just say it straight-faced and let it go at that. You can tell yourself that since you did NOT hurt them, you are NOT sorry. They can tell themselves that you are sorry since they feel that you did hurt them. You do not actually confess to any crimes. Besides, what if on some level without knowing it, you did hurt them in some way? Wouldn't you want to have said sorry for at least that tiny part? Soon peace began to show itself at my house. They would both smugly tell themselves that they had won the war of the day. I would get the much needed peace and tranquility that I needed.
It did not take long at all for me to see that this statement works just as well in the adult world too. Try it at work on a coworker some time and see how well they respond. Try it in your marriage. Try it with your extended family. It works on so many different levels. It can be said in light disagreements or in major all out family wars. It always works. On some level, you mean it, except for the parts where you don't. Do not get into arguing over exactly what parts of the fight you are sorry for or taking blame for. Agree not to bicker over the details of the apology. You can expand it to say, "If during our disagreement, I have said or done anything that has hurt you, I am sorry. That was not my intention. I never wanted to hurt you." You are not lying and you are offering an olive branch. You really did not want to hurt the other person. You simply wanted to make your point. This allows you to save face but still begin the healing process. Try it sometime.
I do not think it works for heinous things like rape, murdering someone's loved one, arson, or military warfare. It only works for forgivable stuff. If you believe everything and everyone is forgivable, then you can try saying it, but I expect nobody will really buy into it. If Hitler said it to the Jewish people or Charles Manson said it to his victims' families, I doubt seriously that it would have created any real peace. When something truly ugly happens, you do have to flat out admit full guilt and a full real apology is mandatory before real forgiveness and healing can begin to occur.
This form of apology is not for that sort of thing. This is meant only for the hundreds of petty squabbles that we are drawn into and it is a way to create a general atmosphere of peace and healing. This is for the people that you ultimately want to stay close to. This is an apology for those annoying people that you love with all your heart, but do not want to fight with anymore.
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