Skye Thomas

Skye Thomas
Writer, Rebel, and Soapbox Ranter

Monday, September 10, 2007

Self-Esteem and the Entrepreneur - Looking Up Newsletter 091007

September 10th, 2007
Looking Up Newsletter

Good morning,

Today's feature article is for the self-taught webmasters, aspiring writers, musicians, artists, women entrepreneurs, and other self-employed people that are about to give up and quit. We're cheering for you!

take care,
Skye Thomas

Tomorrow's Edge
...inspiring leaps of faith
Long Live the American Dream!

Quote of the Week:

"Many a man has finally succeeded only because he has failed after repeated efforts. If he had never met defeat he would never have known any great victory." - Orison Swett Marden

"An overburdened, overstretched executive is the best executive, because he or she doesn't have the time to meddle, to deal in trivia, to bother people. " - Jack Welch, General Electric Chairman and Chief Executive

"Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm." -Winston Churchill

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This Month's News of Interest:

The Guiding Star is back!

Many of you have been with us for years and remember that for most of 2006, we split this multi-topical newsletter into six smaller niche oriented newsletters. Our readers let us know that they really preferred the old version of the newsletter with all kinds of different topics shuffled together. So, we stopped creating the other five newsletters. The Guiding Star was one of those newsletters.

We have since had quite a few requests from astrology fans who want to ONLY receive the small one paragraph "synopsis" of their favorite zodiac sign and maybe some notices about when personalized reports go on sale or when new astrology related items are posted to the website. So, for those of you who really just want to know about astrology and who want to receive just the little freebie version of the forecasts in your inbox each month, we are resurrecting The Guiding Star.

To subscribe, send an email to with the words "free astrology newsletter" typed into the subject line so our spam filter will know that you are a real person. Then go to your email provider's website (like,,, etc) and log in to your email account through their browser. Then go to their online address book and put and into their address book and into any "safe lists" they let you create. That way they will know that we are not spamming you.

The first new and improved issue of The Guiding Star will go out on September 25th and will then go out around the 25th of each month after that.

MySpace and Facebook

I avoided it for a long time, but Saturday I caved in and let my daughter build MySpace and Facebook pages for me. So, now I can be "friends" with those of you who have been asking. It turned out to be more fun than I originally thought it would be, especially since she did all of the work! Here are the links...

Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. She became a writer in 1999 after twenty years of studying personal growth, motivation, soulmates, self-esteem, parenting, spirituality, metaphysics, family dynamics, dating, and astrology. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. This has led her to add "life coaching" to the list of services she offers. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to

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Feature Article of the Week:

Self-Esteem and the Entrepreneur

Isn't it funny how people think that being self-employed is so cool? They think that you get to take lots of vacation time and spend all of the profits. What they do not realize is that you put in outrageous amounts of blood, sweat, and tears to get there. They do not know that you have to take the blame for every single thing that goes wrong. They do not know how many times you fell flat on your face before making it work. They think that you simply come up with a cute little idea over dinner one night and within a couple of months you are flying high living the rich man's life. The reality of the situation is very different. Statistics consistently show that most successful entrepreneurs failed a handful of times before finally finding that winning formula. It is during the failure years that you earn all of those future vacations and big fat salaries. Delayed gratification takes on a whole new level, doesn't it?

One of the toughest things to learn during those failure years is the self-esteem that comes with it. Self-esteem does not come from having everything come easily and effortlessly. Real self-esteem comes from having worked yourself until you're almost in tears and then having someone tell you that you are working too hard and ought to just quit. Real self-esteem is explaining to your folks for the umpteenth time why you are still poor and struggling at self-employment instead of getting a 'real job' and making lots of money as a salesman like your baby brother does. Real self-esteem is deciding to learn from your mistakes instead of giving up and quitting. Real self-esteem is being financially bankrupt and giving it another try anyway, because you just know that this time you are going to make it all come together.

These are the types of events that form good businessmen. Ladies, you know I'm including you in this too. Real self-esteem is when you tell your husband that you are not going to give up on your silly little dream and that it is not just a stupid hobby, it is your company and your career aspirations. These types of events give us the backbone it takes later to be able to make the tough business choices that make the difference between breaking even and making a profit. These types of events teach you how to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. Self-esteem is not having to justify your business decisions. You know what is best for you and your company and you really do not need anyone else's blessing, approval, nor support. If you cannot do it without someone cheering you, then forget it. It is not called other-esteem, coach-esteem, or friend-esteem. It's called self-esteem because you have to muster it up all by yourself.

You do not have to have a lot of self-esteem when you launch into self-employment, but you will learn it along the way or else you will never make it to that luxurious lifestyle that keeps floating through your daydreams. To get started, you just have to really believe in your product. Nobody can really be 100% positive that they are going to succeed at their first attempt at self-employment. After you have had a few years of failures and some successes, you start realizing that you actually know a thing or two compared to the newbies coming into your industry behind you. There will always be someone who knows more then you and someone who could learn from your experience. Self-esteem comes from knowing that you can learn and that you will continue learning until you get it right. Do not expect to feel perfectly confident all of the time. It is all a big game and you have to find the rulebook while trying to master the game.

I once opened up a fortune cookie while struggling with the decision of whether or not to launch my own company. The message inside the cookie read, "The world needs your gift as much as you need to give it." That little fortune has since fallen apart and been thrown away, but I always have a newly typed up version of it scotch taped to my computer monitor. It has reminded me many times over, that I do this not for the money, but because it is who I am. What else would I be doing if not running this little company of mine?

Sometimes, we entrepreneurs keep going simply because it is who we are. We are a different breed and it is part of how we define ourselves. The way that others are musicians, or politicians, or teachers, or doctors at the very depth of their soul, we are at the depth of our soul entrepreneurs. We must play at that particular game because it is what we do. Sometimes we have a spiritual mission behind it, or a vision of the world being better off for having purchased our environmentally safe product, or a deep belief that people can be helped and nurtured by the services offered by our company. It's who we are; it's what we do. Self-esteem shows up later as a result of reflecting on just how far we have come in our attempts to accomplish such an important goal.

Self-esteem is not knowing that you will succeed. It does not come from having all of the perfect craftsman's skills and the perfect level of education before starting your own company. It is knowing that you can acquire whatever skills and knowledge you do not yet possess. It is knowing that you are capable of working hard and tenacious enough to see it through to the end. It is knowing that as much as you appreciate the cheerleaders in your life, that you would keep going even if nobody else believed in you. It is knowing that you do not know everything you need to know but that you are capable of learning more. It is knowing that the world needs your gift as much as you need to give it.

Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge

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