Skye Thomas

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Writer, Rebel, and Soapbox Ranter

Monday, December 01, 2014

Don’t Need to Hear Your Story - Looking Up Newsletter

December 1st, 2014
Looking Up Newsletter

Good morning,

I hope you are enjoying the holiday season!

take care,
Skye Thomas


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This Month's News of Interest:


December 2014 Monthly Horoscopes

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The free (generic) annual astrological overviews have been posted to the website...






Books by Skye Thomas





Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



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Quote of the Week:

The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration. - Pearl S Buck

You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make. - Jane Goodall

To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to. - Kahlil Gibran



Feature Article of the Week:


Don’t Need to Hear Your Story

I heard someone make a statement years ago that offended me to no end. It took me a long time just to be able to write the article that I knew then would come of it. A woman volunteering in our church had been deeply hurt by our church’s lack of love and support and had left us quite abruptly. She started volunteering for one of our sister churches here in our large city and was again treated in a superficial and shallow manner. A mutual friend had stayed in touch with her, working together bridging the two churches’ youth groups. I had been unable to personally get in touch with her for quite some time and was worried about her.

When our mutual friend called to discuss something about our church’s youth group with me, he mentioned that he had just spoken with her and that he was still frequently in contact with her. I asked him how she was doing and how had he supported her in her recent struggles. His response was really quite cold. He had no idea how she was doing on any sort of an in-depth level. He simply said, “I don’t need to hear her story in order to support her in her journey.” I tried to discuss with him how I was concerned about her happiness and how she was doing. I wanted someone to reach out to her in her time of need, but he really had no idea how she was, even though he spoke with her on a regular basis. He was quite content to keep the relationship very superficial and shallow. That was exactly the attitude that had driven her away in the first place and he was continuing the behavior.

The church we attended back then was rather open-minded and dare I say even a bit New Age and as such prided itself on being a place of love and light, of companionship and fellowship. Yet, nobody really knew much of anything personal about anyone else. We were all supposed to be happy and upbeat at all times. Don’t burden anyone with your negative experiences. I watched a lot of other folks in the New Age community and they do not seem to be any different. People do not really connect with each other on a deep personal level.

We New Agers point at the hypocrisy of traditional churches and yet we really are no better than them. We tell ourselves that we are to love everyone regardless of what path they are on, and then we completely disconnect emotionally so as not to actually have to experience what that means. It is easy when we do not have much of anything to do with someone to say the words, “I love you and support you regardless of what choices you make.” Try actually getting to know someone and really being in their life, then say that and mean it.

In order to truly love and support someone on a meaningful level, we have to hear their stories. We have to actually take the time to get to know them. What are their hopes and dreams? What are their challenges and struggles? Who do they want to become? Who are they afraid of becoming? In truly getting to know someone then you are able to really mean it when you say that you love and support them. Otherwise, it is superficial and fake. As a society, we all feel so alone and disconnected and yet we say that the New Age Movement is about love and light; not if we are using extreme emotional detachment as our way of protecting ourselves from the real hassle of loving and supporting someone unconditionally.

Yes, some people are easier to love from afar. Some people are so messed up and dysfunctional that you have to distance yourself from them in order to even entertain the idea of loving them. Tell yourself the truth; you really do not love them unconditionally. You love them as long as they stay out of your hair and do not bug you too much.

Some people will get stuck in their stories and allow their stories to define who they are. You find yourself wanting to ask them if anything of importance ever happened before that story and did nothing of importance ever happen to them after that story. Is that one story the only one about you worth telling? Tell me all of your stories. Tell me of the stories that you someday hope to experience. In hearing your stories, I can really come to understand you as a tapestry of memories and events, not just as a vague someone that I smile and nod at before the sermon starts on Sunday morning. How can I really love you and support you in your life if I have no idea how you came to be at this point? How can I really cry with you if I do not understand why you are hurting? How do I help you to heal from the battle wounds of your life if I do not understand what the battle meant to you? How do I help you choose a new path that would bring you real love and light if I do not know why you are trapped in the darkness?

It goes both ways, you tell me your stories and I will tell you mine. If you only talk to me when I am rich, successful, and happy, then how will I know that you ever really loved me? You do not want to hear my stories? Then do not tell me that you really love and support me. If you do not want to hear about my struggles and challenges then how am I supposed to reach out to you when I am in my time of need? I do not want you to just say a prayer, sometimes I want you to actually roll up your sleeves and help me. How can you do that without hearing my story? Are you simply in love with the idea of unconditional love? You are not really practicing it if you cannot be bothered to hear our stories.

That is what we do as humans; we share our stories because within our stories is our understanding of what it means to be alive. To close yourself off from hearing someone’s stories is to close yourself off from hearing about what their life meant to them. There is wisdom to be learned in hearing someone else’s story. There is compassion to be felt, share your stories with each other and you share your hearts.


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Sunday, November 02, 2014

Friends Are a Gift You Give Yourself - Looking Up Newsletter

November 1st, 2014
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

It has been a loooooong hot summer here in southern California. Yesterday was Halloween and it struck me as really something when half the students at my son’s school were wearing shorts and t-shirts. Nobody even needed a light jacket last night.

This morning, it finally started to rain and I noticed red leaves beginning to show on the tree outside my window. It is with a sigh of relief that I find myself happy for lousy weather.

I hope you are all enjoy autumn and making plans for a lovely holiday season.

take care,
Skye Thomas


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This Month's News of Interest:


November 2014 Monthly Horoscopes

The new November horoscopes were posted to the website a couple of weeks ago. Here are the links...



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The free (generic) annual astrological overviews have been posted to the website...






Books by Skye Thomas





Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



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Quote of the Week:

It is unfortunate we can't buy many business executives for what they are worth and sell them for what they think they are worth. - Malcolm Forbes

If you should die before me, ask if you could bring a friend. -- Stone Temple Pilots

If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you. - Winnie the Pooh



Feature Article of the Week:


Friends Are a Gift You Give Yourself

When my oldest son was fifteen years old, he had become quite arrogant and acted as if he was too cool for the rest of the family. It was fairly typical teenager behavior, but I did not like it. I had gotten to the end of my patience with him and laid into him about how lousy it felt to be treated that way. We ended up in a huge fight. He argued that he was not acting any different than normal and that I was just choosing to see things negatively. So, I laid out numerous examples of his selfish "me me me" behaviors without stopping to take a second breath. He hates it when I go off like that, but once he was ready to really talk, I came down off of my soapbox. He was close to tears. Apparently, I had hit a nerve. He confessed that his closest friends at school had been trying to tell him the same thing and he was not hearing them. Now he suddenly knew what it was they had been trying to say. He felt awful and began to make immediate changes in his behaviors towards others. He really hated the idea that he was hurting anyone's feelings by being cold and uncaring.

We talked a lot that night about how family sort of has to put up with each other. Family is always there for you. Family can embarrass you and you still have to acknowledge them in public. Family can and will scream at you until you finally get the point that you are being a jerk. You really do not have much choice over who your family is.

Friends, on the other hand, are a gift that you give yourself. Friends do not have to put up with your bad attitudes. Friends can kick you out of their life if you are not very nice towards them. Friends are not friends for very long if you are embarrassing them in public. Friends usually will not scream at you to get their point across. You handpick your friends to be something different and special. They are not quite the same as family.

In order to have friends, you have to be a friend. Do you listen to them? Do you care for them? Do you encourage them? You have to give a lot of yourself to be a good friend to someone. But in the end, you are the one who benefits the most. It is not about becoming some kind of martyr without any personal needs or thoughts towards your own well-being. It is more about nurturing a cherished relationship. That way, you have a dear friend to hang out with when your family is driving you bonkers. You have someone to laugh and play with. You have someone safe to share your hopes and dreams with. You have someone to talk to who is not going to blab to the rest of the family that you think your mom is an overbearing control freak or that your stepfather is not turning out to be your idea of what a dad ought to be.

Through our discussions that night, we were able to tap into what it was that made my son such a great guy to hang out with over the years. It was his ability to genuinely care about others and his intuitive compassion for everyone that made him more than just popular, but a real friend to all. He was the kind of teenager who always stuck up for the smaller kids and looked after the lost children. Once I reminded him of how he used to be, he realized how much of his focus had turned inwards towards himself instead of outwards towards those whom he cared about. He said that he had gotten so wrapped up in his new cool friends and in his public image at school that he had not understood what his old friends were talking about when they said he was cold and uncaring now. Turning his attention inwards had caused him to alienate many of his closest friends and family. Now, he suddenly felt very much alone in the world. Luckily, it had not been happening for very long before I blew up at him and made him look at it. He was able to quickly readjust back into the caring person he used to be and was able to feel loved and supported by his friends and family again. He passionately dove back into his friendships.

He learned that you can treat your brother like garbage and he will always be your brother and you will have to see each other at family gatherings whether you ever learn to be close or not. Friends on the other hand, can and will walk out of your life if you are cold and uncaring towards them. Family will eventually just shrug their shoulders and excuse your self-absorbed behavior as just the way you are, friends won't. I find it is the friendships that we love and nurture like family that last forever as if they were family. And, it is the family members that we love and nurture like friends that we form the strongest and closest bonds with.

They say that we learn our social skills from our siblings, but I am not so sure about that anymore. My stepmother was not a very nurturing personality type and my sister and I were not very close when we were younger. So through my girlfriends, I got that female connection that I just could not get from my family. My girlfriends became my surrogate family and taught me a lot about how to really be there for someone else. My sister and I have only recently become friends in the last few years. We are forming a different kind of bond compared to what we had when we were children. It is much better now. I would never treat my friends the way I used to treat my sister!


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Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Aries November 2014 Horoscope

You seem to have two main topics on your mind. One is a debate with yourself or some “expert” about your religious, political, cultural, and/or academic views. This debate has been a reoccurring issue lately and you are not enjoying it. The other topic is more enjoyable. You are coming up with all kinds of ideas to help you with your financial, professional, and leadership goals and finding it easier than usual to put those plans into action.

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Taurus November 2014 Horoscope

Your romantic and financial relationships are receiving a lot of attention lately. You are in the mood to launch financial goals and to invest time in romance. The only catch is that you need to keep your money and your love life completely separate from your social life and/or the Internet. Someone is not being completely honest with you or they are misinformed and passing along faulty information. Either way, you need to avoid mixing your social life with your finances and/or your love life.

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Gemini November 2014 Horoscope

Despite quite a few miscommunications and drama events at work, you are still managing to impress your boss or another authority figure and you are able to make some progress towards increasing profits too. You could find this is a good time for bonus checks or commissions. You also get to launch some kind of fresh start or new beginning involving a romantic, social, or business partner, but then they immediately upset your father, boss, or some other authority figure. You may find yourself having to defend your decision to partner with this person.

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Cancer November 2014 Horoscope

Maybe it is just everyone trying to schedule time off for the upcoming holidays but you have plenty of stress brewing at work. The good news is that after another batch of financial issues concerning your playtime and holiday budget, things are finally resolved and you are able to start having some fun and being more generous later in the month.

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Leo November 2014 Horoscope

You have two very different dynamics happening in your home at that same time. On the one hand, you are ticked off about something or someone in your private life. It could be a home-improvement project, holiday planning, chores, rental contract, or mortgage. You keep getting really ticked off about it. But on the other hand, you have a very productive energy happening too that helps you to get all kinds of work done, so it is a little tricky trying to figure out why you are so upset. Maybe you just hate housework, chores, remodeling projects, etc. even if they are getting done on time.

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Virgo November 2014 Horoscope

There are plenty of opportunities this month to find awesome sales, bargains, and great deals on holiday shopping and gift ideas. It is also a great time for all kinds of local gatherings. Your partner may get annoyed about something or someone at home, but overall, the two of you are having a lot of fun hanging out together and socializing with people in your local community.

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Libra November 2014 Horoscope

Office gossip, daily commutes, local transportation, tough contract negotiations, ineffective sales presentations, faulty product pricing, misunderstandings, miscommunications, defective computers or telecommunication systems, etc. are causing all kinds of delays and productivity problems at work. They holiday shopping, vacation scheduling, winter weather transportation, and overall distractedness could be playing a role in why things are getting rather hectic. Still, your home life is quite pleasant and financially stable, so you are not having too much trouble shaking off the daily stress after leaving the office each day.

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Scorpio November 2014 Horoscope

You have some of the all-time best opportunities for bargain hunting and finding excellent sales on the various items you might want to purchase for the holiday season. And yet your budget is not where you would like it to be. You normally like to be pretty generous, but this year’s tight budget is really annoying you. Luckily, you are amazingly good at finding incredible deals this month. I think you might actually find yourself entertained by the challenge.

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Sagittarius November 2014 Horoscope

You are able to brainstorm creative ideas for earning more money through activities involving bureaucracies, charities, and mental health industries. You could also find this is a good time to make sure that you are not doing anything self-destructive that would stop you from achieving your financial goals. This is also a good time for healing old emotional wounds and for building your self-confidence.

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Capricorn November 2014 Horoscope

This is a bad time for allowing your friends, teammates, colleagues, and/or Internet entities to get involved in your financial or romantic activities. Things will turn out badly. You are also dealing with a lot of dysfunction within your local community. And yet, you are in a lovely social mood. You are still enjoying spending time with your friends and colleagues. And they are genuinely fond of you.

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Aquarius November 2014 Horoscope

Your partner is unhappy about how much time you are spending focused on your career. Or your competitor is ticked off because you are doing so well. Either way, your career is bursting with positive energy. This is a great time to take on leadership roles and to work towards achieving your professional goals. During the second half of the month, you will need to be really careful when mixing your finances with friends, teams, clubs, committees, group activities, and/or the Internet. These social activities could easily end up draining your bank account.

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Pisces November 2014 Horoscope

You have had such a great couple of months professionally and yet here you are getting upset about a boss or your reputation, professional path, or the level of success you have achieved so far. Perhaps after coming so far, it is time to reevaluate things and see if you are indeed ready for something else. Maybe you have earned the right to a job promotion but your boss is giving it to someone else. Or maybe you are just now realizing that you do not want to work in this industry anymore and you are ready for a completely new path. Whatever it is, be careful not to burn any bridges. If your boss is just grumpy, smile and try to see things from his or her point of view. Next month, you will have a lot of positive things happening in your career again.

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Wednesday, October 01, 2014

Forgiveness is not always easy - Looking Up Newsletter

October 1st, 2014
Looking Up Newsletter

Good morning,

I have to write a paper about the psychologist William James today. He was a fascinating guy. You should check him out sometime.

Many of us have heard of Freud, Jung, and others, but there are so many people that helped to launch the field of psychology that ought to be remembered. It is fascinating to read the heated debates over whether we are predestined by biology and automated learning processes to be who we become or if we actually have free will.

“My first act of fee will shall be to believe in free will…” – William James.

take care,
Skye Thomas


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This Month's News of Interest:


October 2014 Monthly Horoscopes

The new October horoscopes were posted to the website a couple of weeks ago. Here are the links...



If the new horoscopes do not show up, please click on the “refresh” button within your browser.





The free (generic) annual astrological overviews have been posted to the website...






Books by Skye Thomas





Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



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Quote of the Week:

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. - Albert Einstein

You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well. - Lewis B. Smedes

Forgive him, for he believes that the customs of his tribe are the laws of nature! - George Bernard Shaw



Feature Article of the Week:


Forgiveness

It is easy to forgive an adorable child that had no idea they were doing something wrong. It is easy to forgive little things when they do not occur very often. And it is easy to forgive those that are out of their mind with grief, heartache, or pain when they say or do something that is out of character. I have already addressed forgiving big things like infidelity, rape, genocide, and war in another article. But what about the stuff in-between really easy and really hard to forgive? How do we forgive when it is in our own best interest, but the actions of others still annoy us? How do we forgive when they are not sorry or they only say they are sorry because society expects them to but you know that they do not feel real remorse for what they have done? What if they do not even acknowledge that they did it? How do you forgive the person that goes through life wreaking havoc on other people’s lives without even caring enough to notice that they are doing so?

Let me start by saying that I despise the fake apology. I hate when someone crushes you with their choices, words, or behaviors and then when you call them on it, they offer a flippant apology and then simply demand that you “get over it” without any real remorse or real awareness of the pain, discomfort, expense, or humiliation that they may have caused you. I hate the “I’m just a stupid guy” form of apology, the “We’re all just doing the best that we can” non-apology apology, and the “I’m sorry if that bothers you, but ____” apology in which they then go on to restate why you deserved being treated the way you were or they go on to defend their actions in a way that has nothing to do with actually being mindful of what the effect of their actions had on you. And above all else, I hate the repeated and meaningless apology of the habitual behaviorist that always says they are sorry, but never stops doing whatever it is that they are apologizing for.

I know that we are taught to apologize and society is correct to encourage such things. But a fake apology can often do more harm than good and it does nothing to mend the situation. I wish that parents would spend more time teaching children the value of a real heartfelt apology and why we should be mindful of how our actions, words, and behaviors affect others. But this is not an article about how to raise children that rarely need to apologize. It is about being on the receiving end of a jerk’s bad behaviors and trying to forgive them for it.

Sometimes, it is easier to simply put space between you and the perpetrator. This is especially true if they are dysfunctional, destructive, or in any way dangerous. Sometimes, that means getting a restraining order but most of the time, it means creating boundaries. It is common with relatives to feel that it is easier to love them from afar. “You stay in your town and I’ll stay in mine.” Sometimes, it means not having anything to do with each other for days, weeks, months, or even years without technically stating that you are severing all ties. Both sides just stop making an effort, but the door is still open for future healing. Time and space can help to take the edge off of whatever they did and that is all it takes for us to be able to enter a forgiving state of mind. Sometimes, with time and space, we are able to realize that we played a role in what happened and that maybe they were not completely at fault. Sometimes, we realize that we were being overly sensitive and that we should not have been so offended at what they did. Sometimes, we find out new information that we did not know at the time and it turns out that they had good motivations but poor execution or they were actually out of their mind with pain, fear, anger, or stress about something else and they simply took it out on us. Sometimes, we find out through the grapevine that they later did grow to become truly sorry but they are afraid to approach us again. And sometimes, we miss them so much that we are willing to cast aside their flaws in order to enjoy what is good and joyful about spending time with them. Time and space apart is one of the best ways to allow for healing and for an attitude of forgiveness to grow.

But sometimes you come back after a time apart and they are still exactly the same and they are still not sorry and they still make you feel awful, and they accuse you of living in the past because you are cognizant of their inability or unwillingness to change. Seeing a long-term consistent pattern of behavior from someone is not living in the past or holding on to the past. It is simply being an observant person. Do not let them guilt you into feeling as if you are the bad guy here. If they are still a negative force in your life after you have taken time away from them, then maybe you need to consider taking more time away from them or even permanently severing all ties with them.

It can be painful to cut ties with someone that has meant a lot to you, like our parents, offspring, or even a best friend. Although, sometimes after you come back from spending time apart, you look at the person with a fresh perspective and you wonder why you ever put up with their antics in the first place. “Why did I allow this jerk to create so much pain and suffering in my life?” Other times, it is heart wrenching, such as when a loved one has a substance abuse problem and they need professional help but refuse to seek treatment and you have to cut ties knowing that they will probably suffer dearly as a result of you removing yourself permanently from their life. If the person you are considering cutting all ties with were not so hurtful towards you, then you would not be considering kicking them out of your life, so it is not as if you are a cold heartless person once you hit that point. Do not beat yourself up for considering leaving someone that metaphorically beats you up.

Sometimes, it helps to study the person in order to forgive them. What kind of childhood did they have? Has life kicked them around a lot? Have they been hurt by others? What did their generation teach them about how to treat others? What kind of social skills were they taught? Do they have untreated emotional problems? Sometimes, knowing someone’s background, philosophical views, and/or mental health status helps to make it easier to forgive them. That does not mean that you will not still want to put space between you, it just means that the forgiveness part of things becomes a little easier. For example, a father might not be very loving and attentive, but later as the child grows into an adult, they are able to understand that the father was raised in a generation that frowned upon such behavior from men. So, then the adult child can forgive their father for not being more demonstrative when the child was younger.

Sometimes, they simply are not sorry and they think you deserved whatever it is that they did. And then it is up to you to forgive whatever percentage of it that you can and then forgive yourself for not being able to forgive more than that. You may have to come back and emotionally re-evaluate your feelings and over time you may be able to forgive a bit more.

What you should not do is to allow someone to continually make you feel awful without ever changing the paradigm between you. If it cannot be changed, healed, or resolved, then you probably need to walk away from them. Sometimes, you should run and not look back.


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