Skye Thomas

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Tuesday, September 01, 2015

The Last Day of “Who Cares?” - Looking Up Newsletter

September 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

When I wrote today’s feature article, my oldest son was entering high school and my youngest was 2 years old. Now, they are 26 and 14. Time flies. We had a lovely end-of-summer beach day this last Sunday as my youngest was heading back to school on Monday. It reminded me of this article and I’ve been thinking about it a lot ever since.

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Skye Thomas


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Quote of the Week:

Words cannot be remote from reality when they create reality. – John Cowper Powys

I am influenced by words and the chewiness of language. - E. Annie Proulx

Half of what I say is meaningless; but I say it so that the other half may reach you. - Kahlil Gibran



Feature Article of the Week:


The Last Day of “Who Cares?”

Yesterday was the last day of “Who Cares?” for my oldest child. Today is his first day of high school. From now on, his choices will have a long-term effect on his life. Nothing will ever be the same for him.

Our culture does not make a big deal of that moment when a teen is officially considered an adult. Many older more traditional cultures create ceremonies so the teen and everyone around him knows that from that day forward he is considered an adult and is expected to behave as such. By the time they are old enough to move out, they have had a few years to get comfortable with the idea that they are adults. In America, we just say that at the age of eighteen you are old enough to vote, to get married, to serve your country, to go to jail, and to move out of your parent’s home. There is no ceremony, no transition, no empowering.

If we are honest, we have to admit that by the time our children enter into high school, our influence has seriously dropped off. That is not to say that our love, presence, and role modeling is not still crucial. It’s just that we have already taught them most of the really important stuff that we were going to teach them. We have taught them to believe in themselves, or we haven’t. We have taught them about religion, or we haven’t. We have taught them the Golden Rule, or we haven’t. We have taught them to say no to drugs and premarital sex, or we haven’t. You get the idea. By the time our children are entering into high school they know what we think of life and what we think of them. They know if our approach to life and towards them is basically optimistic or not. They know if we value higher education or not.

I told my son the truth, “From the day you walk through those doors into high school, I no longer have any real control over your life. You are in charge. If you decide to flunk out of school, there is nothing I can do about it. If you decide to blow off my rewards and punishment systems, there isn’t a darn thing I can do to stop you. If you blow your grades, all I can do is deny you driving privileges. Legally, I don’t have to let you drive. Otherwise, I can’t really do much to force you to be a good student. I cannot force you to stay clean and sober. I cannot force you to surround yourself with quality people.

You stand four inches taller than me and weigh as much as I do. What am I going to do? Spank you? Put you in time-out? I can ground you only if you agree with me that you should be grounded and only if you choose to honor my authority. I cannot physically force you to stay home at night. I cannot physically force you to show up for classes. Your size alone dictates that I no longer have power over you. I can only lead from a place of having earned your respect.

Up until now, nobody really cared what kind of grades you got. The grades you get now affect whether or not you get into a college. The grades you get now affect whether or not you get scholarship money. Whether or not you join in student government, compete in sports, participate in the arts, it all matters now. The grades you get and the activities you choose to participate in now affect your placement in society when that precious eighteenth birthday occurs.

Will you be a high school dropout or will you be going away to the university of your choice entering into a field of study that fascinates you? Will there be scholarship money to pay for your schooling or will you be forced to struggle and work your way through school? The grades you get now affect how hard you will have to work in the future. The better your grades, the more activities you excel in, and the longer you stay in school, the easier you will have it later.

From this day forward, you are in charge of your destiny. You decide. How much paid vacation do you want as an adult? How many nice toys will you be able to purchase? How nice of a place will you live in? How important are expensive clothes to you? How many hours per week will you want to work to support your children? Will you travel? Will you love your job? You actually have the power now to start choosing for yourself and designing for yourself what your future will look like. You do not have the rights or responsibilities of an adult yet, but you do have the power to create your own dreams. That means that from this point forward you are secretly in charge of your future.

As a toddler, I taught you society’s opinions of right and wrong. As a child, I taught you the laws of cause and effect. Throughout the process, I did my best to help you find your unique and beautiful authentic self. You are not legally free to leave and do as you please, but you are now at that point where I have to teach you how to create a life for yourself that is meaningful and worthy of you and your incredible heart. From this day forward, you get to choose your soul’s journey.

Yesterday, you played at the beach as a carefree child. Today, you began your journey into adulthood. From this point forward people are watching, they care about your work ethic, your personal conduct, who you surround yourself with, and who you have chosen to become. You have four years to design and build your wings. They will carry you when you leave the nest. Choose wisely, my dear.

Who cares? You do.”


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Monday, August 03, 2015

Passion’s Search for Destiny - Looking Up Newsletter

August 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

I hope you are all enjoying the summer. It’s been hotter than usual here and it has me feeling less than motivated. We did manage to sneak off for a lovely beach day! Otherwise, I find myself hiding indoors more than I like. As soon as it cools a bit, I am looking forward to some more hiking and outdoors activities.

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Quote of the Week:

"True love is like a psychic experience. Everyone tells ghost stories, but few have ever seen a ghost." - Unknown

In my writing I am acting as a map maker, an explorer of psychic areas... a cosmonaut of inner space, and I see no point in exploring areas that have already been thoroughly surveyed. - William S. Burroughs

In times of change, of Zeitgeist, when the accompanying need for new orientation to new conditions the psyche is stunned into activity- Sensitive souls receive the impact of these activities from the psychic depths. - John Weir Perry



Feature Article of the Week:


Passion’s Search for Destiny

She was haunted by a man whom she had never met. He came to her in her dreams. It was not just a reoccurring dream about some random Prince Charming archetype. This guy had flaws. He was just as mixed up and lost as she was. She would wake up from a dead sleep to the sound of his voice whispering in her ear, “Look out the window.” She would argue in her half asleep stupor, “Be quiet! I’m sleeping!” Again, he would whisper, “Look out the window.” She would eventually drag herself up from the cozy comfort of her bed to gaze out the window. There was the full moon big and beautiful. It magically called to her from somewhere in the back of her soul’s oldest memories.

She could feel him there, her ghostly suitor. She knew that if she spun around quickly, he would be standing there behind her, but every time she turned, there was nothing there but silence and darkness. Somewhere in the recesses of her mind, she could hear him silently promising, “Wait for me. I’ll find you if it’s the last thing I do.” She would toss and turn for the rest of the night feeling his intense presence and wrestling with the fact that he was not real.

As the years went on, she would learn that he did not know her name and that he called her Destiny. She began to call him Passion. She was not allowed to search for him. She was to sit still and wait. It was part of the game, part of the agreement. His challenge for this lifetime was to search for his Destiny. After all, what is Passion without Destiny? He had to learn how to recognize her. She had to learn how to wait in blind faith that he would find her. Both had to live real lives with real mates. Neither could shake the very real belief that the other one existed somewhere out there.

How many times would she convince herself that the man standing in front of her was her Passion? How many times would it not be true? How would she know when it was finally him? How many women would he mistake for her? Would Passion and Destiny burn out and give up, writing it all off as just some figment of their imaginations? Do soulmates really exist? Or are we looking for an impossible ideal?

A soulmate is not just someone that you love from the depth of your soul. They are not just someone that you have a karmic connection with. They are not just someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. They are someone you miss hanging out with before you have even met. They are the one that upon first meeting you simply sigh in relief and say, “Ah there you are. I’ve been waiting for you.” There is no questioning, no “getting to know you” stage. You have known them for all of eternity. You may want to share the stories of your journeys and how you came to find each other, but you already know them as well as you know yourself. You see yourself in their eyes. You understand them on a soul level because you share the same source.

Unfortunately, it is not always a blissful experience. Most of us are not ready to meet our other halves because we are not ready to honestly look at ourselves in the mirror. Until you can truly love and accept yourself, then you will not be able to love and accept your soulmate. They are not some fantasy person sent to save you from the ups and downs of real life. They will not make your life a magic perfect delight. They are not sent to rescue you, fix you, or even to make you happy. They will simply love you on a level that is unlike any other.

If you do not hear the call of a long lost soulmate, count yourself as blessed. I mean this with all of my heart. You are the lucky ones, those who never hear the soft whisper of a faraway soulmate. You have the freedom to love anyone you choose. You get to make any kind of match that pleases you. Do not try to force a soulmate relationship. Be content in knowing that you are exactly where you are supposed to be, doing exactly what you are meant to do.

If, on the other hand, you do hear your Passion calling, or you see Destiny in your dreams, then my prayers go out to you. For yours is that path of finding the proverbial needle in a haystack. Do not ask me to tell you if they are worth the hunt. Can you bring yourself to give up the hunt even if you tried? Only you can gauge your ability to silence that cosmic voice calling you to hold out for that certain person that only you will recognize. Only you know what it is going to take to find them. Perhaps the angels will smile upon the two of you and help with some old-fashioned happenstance. Perhaps you will telepathically connect and find your way into each other’s arms. Perhaps you were just meant to experience the longing. Perhaps you will go through some bad relationships first so that when you find your Destiny, she will be that much sweeter and more appreciated. Nobody knows for sure how it will play out. But I believe that on some level, deep down, you know.

Did you already meet your soulmate and choose to walk away from each other? Was the intensity too much? Did it scare you? Was it overwhelming? Was it too hard? Will you have a second chance with them later down the road? Will you miss them forever? Yes, you probably will. Will you learn something about unconditional love from them? Yes.

Did you find each other and recognize the fact that they shared the same soul as you? Did you hold on tight? Count yourselves as the very rare and incredibly blessed. Cherish the gift of finding yourself in another’s eyes and seeing just how beautiful you are.


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Monday, July 27, 2015

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You have had a lot of time over the first half of this year to shine professionally. Now you are reevaluating your professional progress so far and you seem irritated by what you are seeing. Maybe you have not made enough progress or maybe you are unhappy with the leadership role you are in. Regardless of whatever changes you decide to make, you are successfully able to launch new professional goals and to begin a new chapter in that area of your life. Your social life is bursting with all kinds of positive energy and it seems to be putting a damper on your love life, parenting obligations, or hobbies. You will need to keep an eye on that so as not to lose anything or anyone that truly matters to you.

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Your partner is upset about your level of success, professional path, reputation, choice of careers, boss, father, a high profile client, or an authority figure. It is also possible that your boss or father figure does not like your choice of partners. If your partnerships are all doing okay, then you might find that a competitor is willing to smear your good name in order to win a battle against you. Eventually, things calm down in this area and you begin debating financial aspects of your life. You could be torn between collecting a regular dependable but modest salary and taking a chance on an irregular but possibly much bigger commission check.

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Wednesday, July 01, 2015

Money Equals Love - Looking Up Newsletter

July 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

The home we have been renting for the past two years has been sold out from under us. We found a new home only 3 blocks away. So, we are in the process of sorting and packing. This is not my favorite thing to do, but I do like setting up and decorating at new houses. I hope you are all enjoying whatever it is that you are doing!

take care,
Skye Thomas


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July 2015 Monthly Horoscopes

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The free (generic) annual astrological overviews have been posted to the website...






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Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



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Quote of the Week:

Money is like manure. You have to spread it around or it smells. - J. Paul Getty

Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work. - Aristotle

It is at our mother's knee that we acquire our noblest and truest and highest ideals, but there is seldom any money in them. - Mark Twain



Feature Article of the Week:


Money Equals Love

When we think of prosperity and of creating abundance, it is easy enough to see how working at a job that we love helps us to earn more money than if we worked at a job we hated. We can see that if we add plenty of love and warm-fuzzies towards how we treat our coworkers, bosses, employees, and customers, then it makes sense that people will like doing business with us and we will become more successful therefore earning more money. We can understand how putting our love into the goods and services that we sell makes for superior products and therefore raises the perceived value of our goods and services. Here is the hard part, it holds true in our personal relationships too.

How many women complain that their husbands do not spend enough time with them? The wife complains that her husband does not appear to really care about her. She thinks there is a lack of deep emotional connection between the two of them. “You don’t say that you love me! Therefore you must not love me!” He quickly points out that his lack of flowers and romantic words do not mean that he does not love her. After all, he works hard to earn enough money so that she can live in the house they share and so that she can choose to work, shop, raise kids, or whatever it is she does with her time. She says that she appreciates the money, but it is not the same as love. The argument can be condensed down to this, she does not see money as a symbol of love the way that he does. So many men feel under-appreciated for their long hours working to support their families. And they feel that they are unfairly harassed for not spending enough quality time with the wife and kids.

Time is money. That makes sense. Bosses hire employees for their time on the job. Most people are paid an hourly wage or a monthly salary. How much they are paid per unit of time is determined by their expertise and the quality of work they perform. However, the boss is paying his employees to do what he does not have the time to do himself.

Love is time. When you love someone, you naturally want to spend quality time with them. You miss them when they are gone too long. Go to any retirement home or a home for abused children. The most important thing to these people is the personal time that you give them. When you volunteer your time to a charity, a school, or a political campaign, it is because you love what it stands for.

Time is a non-renewable resource. We have a set number of hours each day that we can experience life. We can fritter it away laying out in the yard on a sunny day doing nothing much or we can organize the heck out of it making sure we live every single moment to the fullest. Sometimes we find out in advanced that we are sick and have x number of days, weeks, months left to live. Usually, we have no idea how many days we have left.

So, when we give the boss our time in order to earn money for those that we love, then we are, in a way, giving the loved one our time. The husband could decide that he would rather sit around watching TV all day or he would rather go fishing, but instead he goes to work every day so that his family can have a nice house and nice things to put in it. He has given her his fishing time and his TV watching time. Yes, he still needs to spend some time talking and connecting on an emotional level because a relationship that is all money and no romance is very lonely. However, she needs to see that he has, in a roundabout way, given her his time and energy. He really is trying to give her a gift from his heart.

To illustrate the point even further, we love professional athletes, musicians, actors, and other entertainers so much that we will pay a fortune to see them perform. Those highly paid athletes are making that kind of money because we love them! If we did not love them, then they would not get the ticket sales. It would not matter how well they threw the ball if nobody wanted to watch them do it. Famous celebrities are rich because a lot of people love their work.

This is not to say that it is okay to give money in lieu of love, but rather that for many men, this is their biggest symbolic gesture. Remember too, they are hunters at heart. The caveman had to bring in the dinner or his loved ones would perish. They give money like women give hugs and kisses to babies. Look at the single mom who cannot spend time with her children because she is always working to financially support them. It is not because she does not love them. The same thing holds true for two-income families, the mothers do not love their children any less just because they are gone working instead of home baking cookies. Men need to remember too, that ONLY giving money as a symbol of their love is like a woman ONLY cooking and cleaning as a symbol of her love. Both are huge gifts of the heart, but they are certainly not the only gifts that are needed for a strong bond.

Money does equal love, but there are many additional forms of love to share. Women hate to feel like they are just a paid housekeeper, cook, and chauffeur in a relationship. Men hate to feel like they are just a life support system for a wallet. Money cannot buy love and love alone will not create money, but the two are able to be converted back and forth into each other. The one can equate to the other. Love can make you prosperous, and sometimes money means “I love you”.


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Monday, June 01, 2015

Making New Friends - Looking Up Newsletter

June 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

I met some lovely new people at a picnic gathering yesterday; reminded me of today’s feature article. I hope you are all finding the time and inspiration to reach out and make new friends.

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Skye Thomas


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Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



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Quote of the Week:

You can understand and relate to most people better if you look at them -- no matter how old or impressive they may be -- as if they are children. For most of us never really grow up or mature all that much -- we simply grow taller. O, to be sure, we laugh less and play less and wear uncomfortable disguises like adults, but beneath the costume is the child we always are, whose needs are simple, whose daily life is still best described by fairy tales. - Leo Rosten

So what do we do? Anything, something, so long as we just don't sit there. If we screw it up, start over. Try something else. If we wait until we've satisfied all the uncertainties, it may be too late. - Lee Iacocca, Chrysler Corporation CEO

Courage is not the lack of fear. It is acting in spite of it. - Mark Twain



Feature Article of the Week:


Making New Friends

How do we make friends? More importantly if dropped into a new city or a new job or a new school, how do we go about making new friends? Most of us don’t really think about it, but just sort of allow people to float in and out of our lives without really paying any attention to how we pull new people into our lives.

Years ago, my son was four-years-old and starting preschool. He had been begging to go for about a year and was thrilled that he was finally there. He had longed to play on their playground. He really loved all of the noise and commotion of such a large daycare center. The sight of all those other children running around, laughing, and playing fascinated him. He was so excited to dive in and start hanging out with those other children. He was naturally outgoing and energetic, and had wonderful social skills so I knew he would get along just fine. I was a bit surprised when he came up to me after a few weeks and said that he was really struggling because as the new kid he did not have any friends.

“How do I get some friends to play with me?”

I told him that every week I would give him a new assignment. I explained to him that you do not want to run through these steps too fast because it makes people nervous and they will push you away. You want to give them time to adjust to you as you go through these steps.

For the first week, all he had to do was smile a nice big smile and say, “Hi!” He needed to walk around saying “Hi!” to teachers and students alike; whoever seemed cool in his opinion. He did not have to be a geek about it and say “Hi!” to everyone; just those he thought seemed kind of interesting. This gives people the impression that you are an upbeat positive person, but not too pushy. Greet them every day with a smile on your face.

For the second week, he had to start adding their names to the cheerful greeting. When you see someone you like, smile real big and say “Hi Joey!” or “Hi Suzy!” or “Hi Anthony!” Start learning their names and adding those names to your greetings. This way they are already used to your pleasant greetings and it just personalizes it a bit. Greet them with a personalized greeting every day.

For the third week, I told him to give them an honest compliment along with the greeting. Do not make it something big and embarrassing, but something small and comfortable for them to hear you say aloud in front of others. “Hi Joey! I love your Ninja Turtle T-shirt!” or “Hi Suzy! I really like the way you color within the lines, looks great!” or “Hi Anthony! Nice haircut dude!” The key to this step is honesty. You have to find something you truly like about the person to compliment. People get an odd feeling and on some level can sense when others are being fake or insincere with them. Be honest, be upbeat, and personalize the greeting and the compliment. Again, do it every day. Consistency really matters. You are not just making them feel good about themselves, but creating a public image of yourself as a consistently upbeat positive person.

For the fourth week, I was going to have him include an invitation to play with him in with his greetings, but he never got that far. He was having such a good time with all of his new friends that he never really bothered with any more lessons. He was very popular and well-loved from that point on.
Every time he has changed schools or neighborhoods or gone away to camp or whatever, he has always used that same system to make new friends. It is foolproof and always works for him. Now that he is a young adult, he simply walks up to strangers, flashes them his best grin in a charming and almost clown-like manner. He hams it up like a beloved comedian and delivers whatever silly greeting will make people laugh. It is fun to watch him.

Can we as adults do the same thing? I know that if I really look at my own behaviors, the times that friends have seemed a bit scarce were when I was not doing a lot of reaching out and greeting them. If I was not personalizing my conversations towards them and I was not handing out the compliments, then new people did not seem to stick around and develop into friendships. Most people are a lot more insecure and shy than they let on, and they really feel good when someone else notices them enough to learn their name and to greet them with a real compliment. It usually makes them feel comfortable enough to respond and to begin opening up.

It is a really simple exercise: consistently greet them, personalize the greeting, and then add a compliment to the greeting, if you aren’t friends by then, offer an invitation along with the greeting. People love to feel likeable. This system lets them know that you think they are likeable without making you feel like an uncomfortable nerd. It is slow enough paced to not be forced, unnatural, or pushy. We humans have funny little behavioral rules and rituals that we follow instinctively. We feel uneasy when someone does not approach us the right way. Deep down, a lot of people are skittish and easily spooked away. Give them time to check you out. It is amazing how beautifully this works.


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Who Is The Inner Critic? - Looking Up Newsletter (May 1 2015 issue)

May 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

I am currently researching Carl Jung for a paper in my psychology grad school program. Fascinating stuff. We only hear such small tidbits of these people’s lives and of their contributions to their field of expertise. If you want some meaty and interesting summer reading, I highly recommend reading biographies of William James, Carl Jung, and/or Abraham Maslow.

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Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



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Quote of the Week:

Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose. - Bill Gates

It is unfortunate we can't buy many business executives for what they are worth and sell them for what they think they are worth. - Malcolm Forbes

An inventor fails 999 times, and if he succeeds once, he's in. He treats his failures simply as practice shots. - Charles Kettering, Inventor



Feature Article of the Week:


Who Is The Inner Critic?

Imagine yourself in one of those old-time scary movies. You are making your way along a path through the jungle. You are on your way to some important event that cannot be missed. In order to get to where you are going, you must pass through the dark scary unknown section of jungle along the trail. It is dusk and the trees and vines of the jungle surround you, adding to the smothering darkness. You nervously tiptoe along. Those of us at home watching this movie would know to be frightened for your safety because there would be some scary music playing in the background to help set the scene.

As you plot your way along the jungle path, you unknowingly step on a twig causing it to snap. The sound is sharp and loud, compared to the previous quiet of the jungle. At the sudden noise, a huge group of monkeys in the trees start screeching and screaming! They scream until they scare all the birds away. You did not know there were monkeys and birds hidden in the trees. Now they have both rushed off in a sudden whirlwind of noise and chaos. Nothing bad really happened, but the suspense and the sudden doomsday warning and screaming of the monkeys caused you and the birds to jump out of your skin!

Our inner critic is very much like one of those monkeys in the trees sitting quietly until it is startled and then it suddenly screams out its warnings and convinces us we are in danger. We all have one of those monkeys on our shoulder. His job is to scream out warnings, “Watch out for that lion! He’ll eat you! Don’t jump off that cliff, you don’t have wings and cannot fly like a bird!” The inner critic means well, but can become overzealous and too fearful.

The inner critic typically begins during childhood. Unfortunately, most of us have had parents, siblings, teachers, friends, and enemies tell us that we are not good enough. They laughed when we told them our childhood dreams. It is not always said directly to our faces; sometimes it is a subtle undercurrent. Maybe you lived in the shadow of a perfect older brother and your parents forgot to cheer on your successes too. Maybe your parents did everything for you as if you were incapable of doing anything for yourself. Maybe you lived under the rule of a perfectionist, so everything you did was critiqued with a cold critical eye and nothing you did was ever quite good enough.

The inner critic is that voice inside your head that tells you that you are not good enough, smart enough, talented enough, pretty enough, or strong enough. It nags and natters at you to the point that your self-confidence and sense of bravery is destroyed. You are convinced that the voice is correct and that you really do not have what it takes to live out your favorite dreams. As time goes on, you quit setting meaningful goals. You become resigned to a life of mediocrity and dullness.

However it starts, the inner critic gathers proof that it is doing the right thing by protecting you from making foolish leaps of faith. It will find proof of your inability to succeed. Every time you give up and quit, the inner critic files that away in its memory as proof yet again of your smallness. Years and years of layers of proof and validation, coupled with the lack of a strong support system of cheerleaders, strengthens the inner critic until it overpowers your own sense of drive and purpose. Your fears disguised as common sense now rule your life.

Critics are not necessarily bad. They analyze and report back the results of their critique. The inner critic believes that he is protecting you. It is his job to keep you from doing harmful or foolish things. In the caveman days, he would have told you that you could not outrun the lion so you should leave it alone. He would have told you not to try swimming in overly deep and dangerous bodies of water. The inner critic is supposed to analyze your talents, traits, and abilities and then determine whether or not you have what it takes to accomplish whatever whim you are entertaining. At an enlightened balanced level, he keeps you safe and out of trouble. In overdrive, he immobilizes you and keeps you from doing anything unorthodox or adventurous.

Look at the most common phobia in America – public speaking. The idea of standing up in front of an audience and giving a speech is feared more than dying! How can that be? What is it we are afraid of? People will laugh at us? People will think we are stupid? People will be so bored that they will fall asleep and snore through the speech? We will forget what we were going to say and just stand there with a blank look on our face? This is an illogical and invalid fear. There is no real danger in failing at public speaking, so why fear it so much? Immobilizing fear should be reserved for those things that are truly dangerous. With a fear of public speaking, the inner critic is in overdrive and is simply freaking out over something that is relatively minor in the big picture of the human experience. Sometimes, we need to ignore our irrational fears.

At other times, you may decide that your inner critic is telling the truth and you should heed its advice. For example, you might think it would be cool to own a restaurant, but you are afraid of failing. Upon evaluation, you come to realize that you do not know anything about running a business or even how to run a restaurant for that matter. You are a great cook and love serving your delicious home-cooked food to guests, but that is not enough to make you a successful restaurateur. Okay, great, so get lessons, training, hire a business coach, and learn how to do the parts that you do not already know. Educate yourself; make resolving the real challenges creating those fears your first steps towards eventually owning your own restaurant. Just because you do not have all of the tools and knowledge today does not mean that you are never ever going to have the tools and knowledge needed to succeed at your dream. Yes, the fears in this example are valid and logical fears, but they do not have to mean giving up and quitting your dream.

Your inner critic makes an evaluation about you based on past experiences, factual knowledge accumulated, assumptions, and beliefs that has been fed into it over the course of your life. If you have a history of support and success, then your inner critic is probably balanced and logical. If you have a history of being ridiculed and of failure, then your inner critic is probably doing its best to save you from any further pain. Avoiding disappointment, pain, and frustration is a logical course of action, but in doing so you stop yourself from possibly achieving greatness. You are so much more than your inner critic’s opinion of you. You are forever capable of growing, learning, training, expanding, and contributing your unique set of talents. You are capable of deciding for yourself whether or not your inner critic’s fears are valid or invalid. Don’t let a hyperactive fearful screaming monkey stop you from living a full and interesting life.


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