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Thursday, January 01, 2015

Getting Back Up On That Horse Again - Looking Up Newsletter

January 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

As we begin the New Year, I wanted to inspire you to reconsider some of your old dreams and goals that may have been cast aside along the way as grown up things like parenting, paying bills, bad economies, and such have caused us all to make compromises. Maybe it is time to give it another try?

take care,
Skye Thomas


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January 2015 Monthly Horoscopes

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Quote of the Week:

I really wish I was less of a thinking man and more of a fool not afraid of rejection. – Billy Joel

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat. – Theodore Roosevelt

If I were dropped out of a plane into the ocean and told the nearest land was 1,000 miles away, I'd still swim. And I'd despise the one who gave up. - Abraham Maslow


Feature Article of the Week:


Getting Back Up On That Horse Again

Sometimes, for whatever reason, we give up and quit. Sometimes, we run out of resources or start-up capital. Sometimes, our children, parents, friends, and loved ones need us during their time of crisis and we gladly put our dreams aside to rush to their aid. Sometimes, we are simply burned out and no longer feel motivated to take action despite still seeing the validity of the objective. Sometimes, we do not have the skills, education, or credentials that we need. Sometimes, we simply cannot do it alone and help is nowhere in sight. Sometimes, political powers make it very difficult for us to accomplish our goals because our aspirations conflict with their ideology. Sometimes, our competitors succeed at sabotaging our efforts. And sometimes, we feel as if we do not have the strength to pick ourselves up one more time to keep moving forward, so we decide to just stay down for a while as we catch our breath and regroup. We suspect that someday, somehow we will get back up on that horse again, despite feeling that right now, in this moment, we just cannot go on anymore.

This article is not about how to solve the problems and remove the roadblocks that cause you to want to give up and quit. This is about giving yourself permission to get back up, dust yourself off, and make another go at it. All too often, once we give up and quit, we assign the “loser” and “failure” labels to ourselves and then assume that role in society. It is a noble place in society, the person who gave it a good try and failed. We get to hold our head up as one of those people who had the nerve to at least try compared to those who never do. And we can smugly tell others who follow in our footsteps where to watch out for pitfalls and why they too should expect to fail. Thus telling ourselves that we are also using our hard earned wisdom to assist others and to ease others from landing as hard as we did when we made our own face-plant. Yes, there is the nagging sense that we are indeed losers and failures, but there are enough small benefits that it is not so uncomfortable that we actually have to take action and move away from having tried and failed. After all, there is no shame in trying your best and then failing. Right?

For all the comfort we get from our peers and dear old Mom telling us that we are still lovable even when we fail, losing still haunts us. Life is never stagnant. At some point, circumstances change. Sometimes, they change in our favor and sometimes they don’t. When things get worse, we shrug it off and reconfirm our choice to give up and quit. But when things get better, when competitors leave the market, when political ideologies change, when creative new ideas come to us, when new technologies make it easier for us to wear more hats and not have to hire help, when it looks like our old dreams and goals become more do-able, then what? Then we wrestle with the concept, “Do I try again? Do I take another chance? Do I put myself through all of that again? Am I willing to risk it one more time? Now what?”

At this point, the question is, “Do I dare to hope? Or do I surrender to my fears that things will probably fall apart again?” It is easy to weigh the pros and cons, play around with statistics and probability analyses, and to fantasize success while also visualizing failure. This is all good and well. One should never make big decisions lightly or without all of the relevant facts on hand.

Sometimes, making the decision is easy. You dreamt of being a rock star when you were a teenager. Now, with home recording equipment and the Internet, it is possible to launch your music career and self-promote as an unsigned independent artist. However, you are older, wiser, and no longer see that dream as anything more than a youthful fancy. You no longer have the desire to work that hard or to put your spouse and children through the uncertain financial future of being a musician. Therefore, even though you may enjoy dabbling and playing around with such things, you decide to keep your “real job.”

It can also play out the other way, and saying yes to resurrecting your dream is easy. You wanted to start your own business. You created an excellent well thought out business plan, ironed out all of the details, analyzed the market’s likely response to your goods and services, and you had the expertise, confidence, and tenacity to make great things happen. However, you could not raise the start-up capital. No matter how brilliant your business proposal and no matter how enthusiastic your sales pitch, you could not find an investor who believed in both you and your dream. Then along comes an old friend from high school you have not seen in years and not only do they have the ability to finance your idea, they are excited at the opportunity to co-create it with you. Therefore, it is easy to say yes and give it another try.

But what about when favorable circumstances are not overwhelmingly favorable, but just “more favorable”? Or when your competition leaves the company, but that does not guarantee you the next job promotion? Or when creative new ideas might work, but are not guaranteed to work? Or when you have acquired enough new knowledge to know what you did wrong last time, but not much more than that? Or when some wave of “change is in the air” washes over you and you just feel motivated again? Or when nothing at all has changed other than you feel deeply called to try again because the dream haunts you and will not let you quit with peace of mind? Then what? How do you give yourself permission to hope again when the hard concrete evidence validating the logic behind rekindled hope does not exist?

To this I give you three questions to ponder. One or more may apply in your personal situation.

1) Let’s say that accomplishing your goal brings good into the world. For example, you are going to become a teacher, write music, run for office, cure Cancer, or some other dream that is not completely self-oriented, like “I am going to lose 20 pounds before my next birthday.” Your goal is in a service-to-others industry. In your own way, you are trying to make the world a better place.

Ask yourself, “If I work really hard struggling for years to bring my little gifts to the world, and it only helps two people, was it worth it?”

This question was posed to me by a well-meaning acquaintance years ago. I was going through a tough time. I wanted to write my little books and articles and to give my little speeches around the country to help others learn how to be happy. However, it seemed that no matter how hard I tried to help my own friends and family, they kept reverting back to negative self-destructive behaviors that kept them from living the life of ease and joy that they could so easily have had if they would just heed my well-intentioned advice. My question to this wise person I knew was, “Are you sure the world even wants to be happy? Maybe I’m just wasting my time trying to force something on people that is not really in their nature?” Without a “market” to sell “happiness” to, how could I possibly succeed? He then asked me, “If you spend the rest of your life writing your books and traveling all over the world giving speeches. And your words reach millions of people, but in the end, only two people are truly moved, only two people are able to really “get it” and apply what you are teaching, you only have a profoundly positive life-changing effect on two people. If that happens, then was your lifetime of hard work and effort all for naught?” And so, throughout the hard times, whenever I was tempted to give up and quit, I would remember those “two people” and for them I would carry on.

Consider how this line of questioning might apply to your own dream and ask yourself that same question.

2) Ask yourself this question, “Who else would you be?”

Is this a dream that holds a piece of your soul? Are you at the very core of your being a musician, artist, writer, singer, leader, civil rights advocate, politician, chef, doctor, etc.? For some people, a dream is just a dream. For others, it is about becoming who they already were. Look at someone like Oprah, she majored in journalism and wanted to become “Mary Tyler Moore”. She did not necessarily have the goal of succeeding at the level that she did, but at the core of who she is – is the personality that needed to educate, inspire, uplift, and entertain people. She simply became who she already was. The same is true for me; I was always a wordsmith who meant well when offering unsolicited advice to anyone who would listen. At times when life required that I put my dream on the backburner for a while, I missed being the kind of person who goes after this kind of a dream despite the odds. I missed “being” that person more than I missed the actual writing, speech giving, or any other part of the actual “doing.” And so, it may be with you. Are you able to spend the rest of your life NOT being who and what you really are? Can you say no to a music career because deep down it is fun, but not really something that haunts you and owns you? Does the music call to you, never leaving you alone, always screaming to be birthed through you? Then, who else would you be?

3) If I could promise you that you would only fail two more times and that on the third attempt, you would achieve everything your heart desires and more. If I had a crystal ball and could promise you this without question, would you do it? Would you put yourself through two more failures in order to get to that “third times a charm” place in the universe?

I often hear from aspiring writers who are feeling quite discouraged because they have been turned down by a handful of perspective publishers. They need to ask themselves, “What is the average number of rejection letters the average unknown writer receives before a publisher finally says yes to them?” I remember at one time hearing that it was something like 27, and telling myself, “Okay, well I need to hurry up and blow through the first 26 rejections so I can get to that 27th one who will say yes.” Of course, we all want to be one of the lucky ones who receives a “yes” sooner than what normally happens for the average writer. However, if you go into the whole process prepared and emotionally steeled for 26 rejection letters, it makes it a lot easier than if you go into it saying, “I applied to three and got rejected all three times, so I must not be any good at writing.”

Mulling over these questions does not guarantee you success as you contemplate once again giving hope a chance, but if you are on the edge and thinking that you just might take one more leap of faith, they can help you to remember why you wanted to fly in the first place.


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Monday, December 22, 2014

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Trouble is brewing at work and you may find that telecommuting helps you to avoid having to get mixed up in all of the mess. You and a romantic, social, or business partner have not been getting along as well as you might like, but you will have some opportunities to have some fun together and reconnect on a happier note. Despite being really busy, you may find that this is an excellent time to work on health issues and to begin a doctor-approved fitness program.

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Monday, December 01, 2014

Don’t Need to Hear Your Story - Looking Up Newsletter

December 1st, 2014
Looking Up Newsletter

Good morning,

I hope you are enjoying the holiday season!

take care,
Skye Thomas


Tomorrow's Edge
...inspiring leaps of faith
www.TomorrowsEdge.net

Books, articles, newsletters,
life coaching, and horoscopes.



This Month's News of Interest:


December 2014 Monthly Horoscopes

The new December horoscopes were posted to the website a couple of weeks ago. Here are the links...



If the new horoscopes do not show up, please click on the “refresh” button within your browser.





The free (generic) annual astrological overviews have been posted to the website...






Books by Skye Thomas





Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



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Quote of the Week:

The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration. - Pearl S Buck

You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make. - Jane Goodall

To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to. - Kahlil Gibran



Feature Article of the Week:


Don’t Need to Hear Your Story

I heard someone make a statement years ago that offended me to no end. It took me a long time just to be able to write the article that I knew then would come of it. A woman volunteering in our church had been deeply hurt by our church’s lack of love and support and had left us quite abruptly. She started volunteering for one of our sister churches here in our large city and was again treated in a superficial and shallow manner. A mutual friend had stayed in touch with her, working together bridging the two churches’ youth groups. I had been unable to personally get in touch with her for quite some time and was worried about her.

When our mutual friend called to discuss something about our church’s youth group with me, he mentioned that he had just spoken with her and that he was still frequently in contact with her. I asked him how she was doing and how had he supported her in her recent struggles. His response was really quite cold. He had no idea how she was doing on any sort of an in-depth level. He simply said, “I don’t need to hear her story in order to support her in her journey.” I tried to discuss with him how I was concerned about her happiness and how she was doing. I wanted someone to reach out to her in her time of need, but he really had no idea how she was, even though he spoke with her on a regular basis. He was quite content to keep the relationship very superficial and shallow. That was exactly the attitude that had driven her away in the first place and he was continuing the behavior.

The church we attended back then was rather open-minded and dare I say even a bit New Age and as such prided itself on being a place of love and light, of companionship and fellowship. Yet, nobody really knew much of anything personal about anyone else. We were all supposed to be happy and upbeat at all times. Don’t burden anyone with your negative experiences. I watched a lot of other folks in the New Age community and they do not seem to be any different. People do not really connect with each other on a deep personal level.

We New Agers point at the hypocrisy of traditional churches and yet we really are no better than them. We tell ourselves that we are to love everyone regardless of what path they are on, and then we completely disconnect emotionally so as not to actually have to experience what that means. It is easy when we do not have much of anything to do with someone to say the words, “I love you and support you regardless of what choices you make.” Try actually getting to know someone and really being in their life, then say that and mean it.

In order to truly love and support someone on a meaningful level, we have to hear their stories. We have to actually take the time to get to know them. What are their hopes and dreams? What are their challenges and struggles? Who do they want to become? Who are they afraid of becoming? In truly getting to know someone then you are able to really mean it when you say that you love and support them. Otherwise, it is superficial and fake. As a society, we all feel so alone and disconnected and yet we say that the New Age Movement is about love and light; not if we are using extreme emotional detachment as our way of protecting ourselves from the real hassle of loving and supporting someone unconditionally.

Yes, some people are easier to love from afar. Some people are so messed up and dysfunctional that you have to distance yourself from them in order to even entertain the idea of loving them. Tell yourself the truth; you really do not love them unconditionally. You love them as long as they stay out of your hair and do not bug you too much.

Some people will get stuck in their stories and allow their stories to define who they are. You find yourself wanting to ask them if anything of importance ever happened before that story and did nothing of importance ever happen to them after that story. Is that one story the only one about you worth telling? Tell me all of your stories. Tell me of the stories that you someday hope to experience. In hearing your stories, I can really come to understand you as a tapestry of memories and events, not just as a vague someone that I smile and nod at before the sermon starts on Sunday morning. How can I really love you and support you in your life if I have no idea how you came to be at this point? How can I really cry with you if I do not understand why you are hurting? How do I help you to heal from the battle wounds of your life if I do not understand what the battle meant to you? How do I help you choose a new path that would bring you real love and light if I do not know why you are trapped in the darkness?

It goes both ways, you tell me your stories and I will tell you mine. If you only talk to me when I am rich, successful, and happy, then how will I know that you ever really loved me? You do not want to hear my stories? Then do not tell me that you really love and support me. If you do not want to hear about my struggles and challenges then how am I supposed to reach out to you when I am in my time of need? I do not want you to just say a prayer, sometimes I want you to actually roll up your sleeves and help me. How can you do that without hearing my story? Are you simply in love with the idea of unconditional love? You are not really practicing it if you cannot be bothered to hear our stories.

That is what we do as humans; we share our stories because within our stories is our understanding of what it means to be alive. To close yourself off from hearing someone’s stories is to close yourself off from hearing about what their life meant to them. There is wisdom to be learned in hearing someone else’s story. There is compassion to be felt, share your stories with each other and you share your hearts.


Need someone to talk to about life's challenges?
Skye Thomas is available for life coaching.


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Sunday, November 02, 2014

Friends Are a Gift You Give Yourself - Looking Up Newsletter

November 1st, 2014
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

It has been a loooooong hot summer here in southern California. Yesterday was Halloween and it struck me as really something when half the students at my son’s school were wearing shorts and t-shirts. Nobody even needed a light jacket last night.

This morning, it finally started to rain and I noticed red leaves beginning to show on the tree outside my window. It is with a sigh of relief that I find myself happy for lousy weather.

I hope you are all enjoy autumn and making plans for a lovely holiday season.

take care,
Skye Thomas


Tomorrow's Edge
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Books, articles, newsletters,
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This Month's News of Interest:


November 2014 Monthly Horoscopes

The new November horoscopes were posted to the website a couple of weeks ago. Here are the links...



If the new horoscopes do not show up, please click on the “refresh” button within your browser.





The free (generic) annual astrological overviews have been posted to the website...






Books by Skye Thomas





Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



Skye Thomas Websites






Quote of the Week:

It is unfortunate we can't buy many business executives for what they are worth and sell them for what they think they are worth. - Malcolm Forbes

If you should die before me, ask if you could bring a friend. -- Stone Temple Pilots

If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you. - Winnie the Pooh



Feature Article of the Week:


Friends Are a Gift You Give Yourself

When my oldest son was fifteen years old, he had become quite arrogant and acted as if he was too cool for the rest of the family. It was fairly typical teenager behavior, but I did not like it. I had gotten to the end of my patience with him and laid into him about how lousy it felt to be treated that way. We ended up in a huge fight. He argued that he was not acting any different than normal and that I was just choosing to see things negatively. So, I laid out numerous examples of his selfish "me me me" behaviors without stopping to take a second breath. He hates it when I go off like that, but once he was ready to really talk, I came down off of my soapbox. He was close to tears. Apparently, I had hit a nerve. He confessed that his closest friends at school had been trying to tell him the same thing and he was not hearing them. Now he suddenly knew what it was they had been trying to say. He felt awful and began to make immediate changes in his behaviors towards others. He really hated the idea that he was hurting anyone's feelings by being cold and uncaring.

We talked a lot that night about how family sort of has to put up with each other. Family is always there for you. Family can embarrass you and you still have to acknowledge them in public. Family can and will scream at you until you finally get the point that you are being a jerk. You really do not have much choice over who your family is.

Friends, on the other hand, are a gift that you give yourself. Friends do not have to put up with your bad attitudes. Friends can kick you out of their life if you are not very nice towards them. Friends are not friends for very long if you are embarrassing them in public. Friends usually will not scream at you to get their point across. You handpick your friends to be something different and special. They are not quite the same as family.

In order to have friends, you have to be a friend. Do you listen to them? Do you care for them? Do you encourage them? You have to give a lot of yourself to be a good friend to someone. But in the end, you are the one who benefits the most. It is not about becoming some kind of martyr without any personal needs or thoughts towards your own well-being. It is more about nurturing a cherished relationship. That way, you have a dear friend to hang out with when your family is driving you bonkers. You have someone to laugh and play with. You have someone safe to share your hopes and dreams with. You have someone to talk to who is not going to blab to the rest of the family that you think your mom is an overbearing control freak or that your stepfather is not turning out to be your idea of what a dad ought to be.

Through our discussions that night, we were able to tap into what it was that made my son such a great guy to hang out with over the years. It was his ability to genuinely care about others and his intuitive compassion for everyone that made him more than just popular, but a real friend to all. He was the kind of teenager who always stuck up for the smaller kids and looked after the lost children. Once I reminded him of how he used to be, he realized how much of his focus had turned inwards towards himself instead of outwards towards those whom he cared about. He said that he had gotten so wrapped up in his new cool friends and in his public image at school that he had not understood what his old friends were talking about when they said he was cold and uncaring now. Turning his attention inwards had caused him to alienate many of his closest friends and family. Now, he suddenly felt very much alone in the world. Luckily, it had not been happening for very long before I blew up at him and made him look at it. He was able to quickly readjust back into the caring person he used to be and was able to feel loved and supported by his friends and family again. He passionately dove back into his friendships.

He learned that you can treat your brother like garbage and he will always be your brother and you will have to see each other at family gatherings whether you ever learn to be close or not. Friends on the other hand, can and will walk out of your life if you are cold and uncaring towards them. Family will eventually just shrug their shoulders and excuse your self-absorbed behavior as just the way you are, friends won't. I find it is the friendships that we love and nurture like family that last forever as if they were family. And, it is the family members that we love and nurture like friends that we form the strongest and closest bonds with.

They say that we learn our social skills from our siblings, but I am not so sure about that anymore. My stepmother was not a very nurturing personality type and my sister and I were not very close when we were younger. So through my girlfriends, I got that female connection that I just could not get from my family. My girlfriends became my surrogate family and taught me a lot about how to really be there for someone else. My sister and I have only recently become friends in the last few years. We are forming a different kind of bond compared to what we had when we were children. It is much better now. I would never treat my friends the way I used to treat my sister!


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Aries November 2014 Horoscope

You seem to have two main topics on your mind. One is a debate with yourself or some “expert” about your religious, political, cultural, and/or academic views. This debate has been a reoccurring issue lately and you are not enjoying it. The other topic is more enjoyable. You are coming up with all kinds of ideas to help you with your financial, professional, and leadership goals and finding it easier than usual to put those plans into action.

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Taurus November 2014 Horoscope

Your romantic and financial relationships are receiving a lot of attention lately. You are in the mood to launch financial goals and to invest time in romance. The only catch is that you need to keep your money and your love life completely separate from your social life and/or the Internet. Someone is not being completely honest with you or they are misinformed and passing along faulty information. Either way, you need to avoid mixing your social life with your finances and/or your love life.

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Gemini November 2014 Horoscope

Despite quite a few miscommunications and drama events at work, you are still managing to impress your boss or another authority figure and you are able to make some progress towards increasing profits too. You could find this is a good time for bonus checks or commissions. You also get to launch some kind of fresh start or new beginning involving a romantic, social, or business partner, but then they immediately upset your father, boss, or some other authority figure. You may find yourself having to defend your decision to partner with this person.

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Cancer November 2014 Horoscope

Maybe it is just everyone trying to schedule time off for the upcoming holidays but you have plenty of stress brewing at work. The good news is that after another batch of financial issues concerning your playtime and holiday budget, things are finally resolved and you are able to start having some fun and being more generous later in the month.

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Leo November 2014 Horoscope

You have two very different dynamics happening in your home at that same time. On the one hand, you are ticked off about something or someone in your private life. It could be a home-improvement project, holiday planning, chores, rental contract, or mortgage. You keep getting really ticked off about it. But on the other hand, you have a very productive energy happening too that helps you to get all kinds of work done, so it is a little tricky trying to figure out why you are so upset. Maybe you just hate housework, chores, remodeling projects, etc. even if they are getting done on time.

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Virgo November 2014 Horoscope

There are plenty of opportunities this month to find awesome sales, bargains, and great deals on holiday shopping and gift ideas. It is also a great time for all kinds of local gatherings. Your partner may get annoyed about something or someone at home, but overall, the two of you are having a lot of fun hanging out together and socializing with people in your local community.

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Libra November 2014 Horoscope

Office gossip, daily commutes, local transportation, tough contract negotiations, ineffective sales presentations, faulty product pricing, misunderstandings, miscommunications, defective computers or telecommunication systems, etc. are causing all kinds of delays and productivity problems at work. They holiday shopping, vacation scheduling, winter weather transportation, and overall distractedness could be playing a role in why things are getting rather hectic. Still, your home life is quite pleasant and financially stable, so you are not having too much trouble shaking off the daily stress after leaving the office each day.

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Scorpio November 2014 Horoscope

You have some of the all-time best opportunities for bargain hunting and finding excellent sales on the various items you might want to purchase for the holiday season. And yet your budget is not where you would like it to be. You normally like to be pretty generous, but this year’s tight budget is really annoying you. Luckily, you are amazingly good at finding incredible deals this month. I think you might actually find yourself entertained by the challenge.

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