Venus, Mercury, and the sun travel through your real estate, housing matters, roommates, parents, childhood issues, safety and security, retirement circumstances, and coming home sector. They are bringing enthusiasm, intelligence, beauty, romance, diplomacy, charm, wealth, and business savvy into these topics. Then, Jupiter moves into this same area of your chart where he will stay for about a year. He brings good luck, prosperity, abundance, adventure, and multicultural energies into your home and private life. Sometimes, you feel torn between your home life and public life, between your home and career, but mostly you are focusing on bringing more love, wealth, inner peace, and harmony into your home.
Skye Thomas
Writer, Rebel, and Soapbox Ranter
Tuesday, May 21, 2013
Free Taurus Horoscope for June 2013
Everyone you know seems to be getting along, enjoying spending time together, helping you to juggle a lot of social activities, etc. You can mix business with pleasure and increase sales as a result. You come across as smart, fun, honest, and trustworthy while persuading, entertaining, charming, and socializing with your various friends, relatives, partners, teammates, colleagues, neighbors, etc. This is definitely NOT the time to hide away like a hermit. Get out there and mingle!
Free Gemini Horoscope for June 2013
Jupiter and three other planets move into your personal wealth sector. They are not only helping you with your financial goals, but they are also working quite well with planets in your work sector and in your success sector. This is a great time for you to focus on your professional and financial goals.
Free Cancer Horoscope for June 2013
Jupiter, the planet in charge of good luck, adventure, prosperity, and abundance moves into your zodiac sign this month. He will spend about a year here blessing everything you do and encouraging you to have an open mind, to explore, and to expand your horizons. Saturn and Neptune are in agreement with Jupiter and are encouraging you to not only open yourself up to new adventures, but to also make sure that you are having fun while doing so.
Free Leo Horoscope for June 2013
The planet of good luck and joy moves into the area of your chart that governs your mental health, attitudes, addictions, self-destruction, gullibility, fogginess, intuition, spiritual mysteries, paranormal activities, secrets, charities, hospitals, prisons, institutions, corporations, government agencies, bureaucracies, and “hidden forces working behind the scenes”. These topics, activities, projects, and goals just became a whole lot easier. This is a great time for healing old emotional wounds and letting go of negative philosophies that have been holding you back. First, you have to shake off the old and outdated mindset before you can step into a new and optimistic lifestyle!
Free Virgo Horoscope for June 2013
Virgo is often accused of being a bit of a workaholic, overly focused on productivity, organization, neatness, and being a useful member of society. That can be true, but what is not often talked about is what excellent friends you are. This month, the planet in charge of good luck, joy, prosperity, and abundance is moving into the area of your chart that governs friends, teams, clubs, committees, the Internet, and your social life. Your other people-oriented sectors are adding even more good news to this area of your life. You are an excellent friend, team player, and colleague. And people love including you in their group activities at this time.
Free Libra Horoscope for June 2013
The planet in charge of good luck, prosperity, abundance, and joy moves into your professional success sector this month! And he and a small handful of other planets take turns connecting nicely with your work and wealth sectors so that you are able to focus on achieving your financial, professional, and leadership goals. You still have a partner or rival that is ticked off about things, but your career is doing so well that you might not give it too much thought.
Free Scorpio Horoscope for June 2013
You are entering a time of your life when you are more interested in learning, exploring, traveling, and/or finding out about other religions, political views, cultures, etc. You might even want to relocate to somewhere new and interesting. Most of the time, you are having a wonderful time with these adventurous ideas. But there will be times when your coworkers, job duties, extended family, local community, transportation needs, and/or attempts to communicate your new views are clashing with your desire to be open-minded and globally aware. These people and situations might annoy you, but they are not likely to stop you from setting out on some kind of literal or figurative journey.
Free Sagittarius Horoscope for June 2013
The three emotional centers of the zodiac are found in the fourth, eighth, and twelfth houses. They govern our need for security, ability to trust and share with others, and our secrets. Our homes, love lives, and some financial elements are governed by these same areas of the zodiac. For you Sagittarius, they are all blending together this month to bring a lot of emotional, financial, romantic, residential, and psychological healing and personal growth into your life. This is not a feisty or zesty energy, but a strong and stable reassuring energy. This is a great time for literally and figuratively “getting your house in order” so that you can feel safe and secure.
Free Capricorn Horoscope for June 2013
A small handful of planets are escorting the planet of good luck and joy into the area of your chart that governs partnerships. Both of your other people-oriented sectors are lending a hand and encouraging you to either find a fascinating new partner or they are helping you and a pre-existing partner to socialize, network, make commitments, and/or bond with various relatives and community members. This might be a great time for the two of you to get more involved within your communities and social circles and consider mixing business with pleasure. You have some excellent financial and business savvy planets helping you.
Free Aquarius Horoscope for June 2013
Your professional life could feel chaotic and crazy this month. There are times when you have some extremely strong positive energies promoting your financial and professional goals. Then there are other times when it seems that your career is full of bureaucracies, dysfunctional coworkers, crashing computer systems, tough sales meetings, and harsh negotiations. The good news is that the positive energies last longer than the negative energies and they have more long-term residual effects. So, stay focused and keep plowing through the mess and just trust that you are earning the respect and kudos that you deserve as you deal with the various dramas and challenges that come along this month.
Free Pisces Horoscope for June 2013
Your happiness is very important. You have quite a few planets encouraging you to have fun, fall in love, play, splurge, and spend time with children, pets, and your favorite hobbies. You are also encouraged to travel, learn new things, explore other people’s belief systems, and find delightful ways to broaden your horizons. There are times when your finances are not cooperating with your zest for the good life, but you are still able to find inexpensive ways to have fun while opening your mind to new things.
Monday, May 20, 2013
When They Mock Your Dream - Looking Up Newsletter
May 20, 2013
Looking Up Newsletter
Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
It’s hard to believe that when I first started this newsletter, my daughter was in middle school and over this last weekend we witnessed her graduation ceremony from college. Time flies when you’re not ready for the empty nest syndrome! ;)
take care,
Skye Thomas
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June 2013 Aquarius Horoscope
June 2013 Pisces Horoscope
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June 2013 Leo Horoscope
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Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Why Do I Keep Falling in Love With the Wrong People?
An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
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Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Who is Skye Thomas?
Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.
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Quote of the Week:
A real friend is someone who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. - Walter Winchell
A true friend will see you through when others see that you are through. - Unknown
There is not a more mean, stupid, dastardly, pitiful, selfish, spiteful, envious, ungrateful animal than the Public. It is the greatest of cowards, for it is afraid of itself. - William Hazlitt
Feature Article of the Week:
Don’t Mock Me!
My favorite part of the Noah’s Ark story is not that he listened to his god and therefore managed to save mankind and the animals, and it is not the rainbows, or even the dove as a symbol of divine peace and love. My favorite part happens long before the rains begin to fall. I love that no matter how much people laughed and scoffed at what he was doing; Noah still went right on building that ark. Think about how many days, weeks, months it took to build that thing and all the while they were mocking him. His commitment and tenacity is an awesome example of doing what you believe in no matter what those around you might think. Noah was willing to look foolish in the eyes of everyone around him so that he could fulfill his destiny. As an entrepreneur, I find that story quite inspirational. How many of us were laughed at or mocked when we first started our adventures into self-employment.
People continually say, “Oh you’re so lucky! I wish I was a rich business owner,” whenever they encounter a successful entrepreneur. I find that statement to be ignorant and somewhat insulting. Like Noah, most entrepreneurs started out with a vision of some sort, a passion, and a strong sense of purpose as they began building their business. Many of us are shot down from the very start before we even begin. The minute we start telling friends and family of our plans, they start reminding us that we are not smart enough, talented enough, or wealthy enough to launch such a dream.
I remember years ago when I first took my big leap of faith and quit my ‘real job’ to create Tomorrow’s Edge. My children and my best friend supported me, but everyone else sweetly and politely reminded me of all of the reasons that I should not do it. A friend of mine called me on the telephone to remind me of how he had told his boss to go to hell one day and quit his job to start his own company. Two years later and bordering on bankruptcy, he was begging that same boss to forgive him and to take him back on as an employee. “Don’t you know just how many people fail at self-employment within the first couple of years? You are crazy to even consider such a thing!”
A woman who had been like a second mother to me for many years told me that since I did not have a formal college degree and a doctorate in mental health, that I was not qualified to even think about doing the work that I was about to do.
A woman from my church who had been extremely close to me got really angry and chewed me out one day because she said I was trying to start my own church and was trying to copycat our minister. Her loyalty to our minister was lovely, but I really did not see how Tomorrow’s Edge was ever going to be a church or even a religion.
My own extended family never even heard me as I told them over and over for the first five years of the company’s existence that I was even doing this thing. They all acted as if I was sitting home painting my nails pink and web surfing all day every day. Most of my family still really has no clue what I do and why I do it.
Does any of that matter? Heck no! These people’s opinions of me and of my goals do not change a darn thing. And that’s the point. When you have a goal, a dream, a vision, a mission that burns a hole in your soul when you are not working at it, then you are willing to look like an idiot and a stubborn fool if that is what it takes to succeed. So what if you don’t have a loving support system. It’s your dream, your goal, your vision, your mission – not theirs. If they were meant to do it, then they would have that relentless fire burning in the depths of their souls to roll up their sleeves and help you. It was never theirs to love in the first place, it was always meant for you and you alone.
If you do not have the backbone, tenacity, focus, drive, and raw passion to get beyond what others think of you and your dreams, then you have no business trying to be self-employed. Make a fool of yourself, so what! What if you fail? Who cares? Most successful entrepreneurs have a handful of failures under their belt before they finally learn all of the little business secrets that are required in order to become fiscally stable and profitable. You are going to have some of your product lines fail and some of them are going to sell. You are going to have employees flake off and some who will be incredibly loyal and helpful. You are going to have last minute disasters that nearly bankrupt you and you are going to have windfalls that make it all worthwhile. Self-employment is not for the weak and the easily swayed. If your family and friends can make you question whether or not you have any business starting your own company, what do you think your competitors are going to do to you? They will chew you up and spit you out.
The naysayers are your practice customers and your practice competitors. They give you the opportunity to seriously answer the important questions: Are you committed, really committed? Do you have what it takes to stand up for what you truly believe in? Can you sell the nonbelievers on the viability of your ideas? Do you believe in your goal? Do you believe in yourself? Can you defend your decision to go into business for yourself without getting angry and emotional? Thank your family and friends for mocking you!
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Thursday, May 16, 2013
Free June 2013 Horoscopes
Hello everyone,
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Tuesday, May 14, 2013
He Believes What He Says - Looking Up Newsletter
May 13, 2013
Looking Up Newsletter
Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
Today’s feature article is about domestic violence. It assumes that the perpetrator is the husband/father within a family, but we are all quite aware of the fact that it can be any member of the family, and friend, any loved one. The article does not make excuses for the perpetrator’s behavior but explains why their apologies and promises that it will never happen again are so believable and convincing.
take care,
Skye Thomas
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This Month's News of Interest:
The May horoscopes were posted to the website and sent out to the subscribers a few weeks ago. Here are the links...
May 2013 Aries Horoscope
May 2013 Taurus Horoscope
May 2013 Gemini Horoscope
May 2013 Cancer Horoscope
May 2013 Leo Horoscope
May 2013 Virgo Horoscope
May 2013 Libra Horoscope
May 2013 Scorpio Horoscope
May 2013 Sagittarius Horoscope
May 2013 Capricorn Horoscope
May 2013 Aquarius Horoscope
May 2013 Pisces Horoscope
May 2013 Taurus Horoscope
May 2013 Gemini Horoscope
May 2013 Cancer Horoscope
May 2013 Leo Horoscope
May 2013 Virgo Horoscope
May 2013 Libra Horoscope
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Love's Dance
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An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
Aries 2013 Horoscopes
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Virgo 2013 Horoscopes
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Sagittarius 2013 Horoscopes
Capricorn 2013 Horoscopes
Aquarius 2013 Horoscopes
Pisces 2013 Horoscopes
Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Why Do I Keep Falling in Love With the Wrong People?
An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
Aries 2013 Horoscopes
Taurus 2013 Horoscopes
Gemini 2013 Horoscopes
Cancer 2013 Horoscopes
Leo 2013 Horoscopes
Virgo 2013 Horoscopes
Libra 2013 Horoscopes
Scorpio 2013 Horoscopes
Sagittarius 2013 Horoscopes
Capricorn 2013 Horoscopes
Aquarius 2013 Horoscopes
Pisces 2013 Horoscopes
Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Who is Skye Thomas?
Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.
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Quote of the Week:
All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest--never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership. - Ann Landers
My wife has been my closest friend, my closest advisor. And... she's not somebody who looks to the limelight, or even is wild about me being in politics. And that's a good reality check on me. When I go home, she wants me to be a good father and a good husband. And everything else is secondary to that. - Barack Obama
I first learned the concepts of non-violence in my marriage. - Mohandas K. Gandhi
Feature Article of the Week:
He Believes What He Says
When he says he is sorry and he will never hit you again, he means it. He really believes it with all his heart. That is why he is so charismatic and believable. He means it when he says he loves you and he is agonizingly sorry for what he has done. You are not stupid for falling for his promises that it will never happen again. He falls for them too. He really believes those promises will be kept. That is part of his anger later; he knows how much he wanted it to be true.
Few men who beat up their wives or their children want to do so. Yes, there are a few twisted individuals who enjoy it, but most are not like that. They were often raised in violent families and somewhere in the deepest level of their mind is a little program that runs on autopilot telling them, “This is how real men resolve conflicts.” They hate is as much as you do. They want to believe that with sheer willpower they can stop themselves the next time rage strikes them. Meanwhile, you walk on eggshells trying not to upset them and they blame you for making them mad when it happens again.
The truth is that it is not your fault for upsetting them and it is not their fault for not having enough willpower. The problem lies deep in their childhood scars. They cannot change the dynamic by themselves. You cannot love them enough to make it stop happening either. Yes, love is a powerful healer, but it is never going to heal a problem of that magnitude. They need professional help. Somehow, either through love of you, love of your children, or fear of what they will do the next time it happens… somehow they have to be convinced that it is a sign of strength to seek help rather than to hide away pretending that it will not happen again.
It is often extremely difficult to get these men to attend counseling sessions because many of them suffer from a form of narcissism. They do not want the outside world to see them as flawed and imperfect. “Can’t we keep this our little secret?” They were so wounded as children that they are terrified of people finding out they are not okay. They believe they will not be respected or worthy of love and admiration if they allow the outside world to know what they are capable of behind closed doors.
Many of these men are overachievers. Some are drunks too lazy to work, but many of these men are pillars of the community. That makes it easier to believe them when they promise it will never happen again. They have the self-discipline to accomplish so much professionally, so it seems logical that they can do the same when controlling their anger.
It is easy to convince people that the town drunk is violent, but unfortunately, nobody is going to believe that a professional articulate leader is secretly beating his wife and kids. This is especially true because the wife and kids put on such a lovely show for the rest of the world, “Here’s our perfect family!” To then suddenly shift directions and claim that he is abusive causes people to question your motives. This adds to the wife and children feeling trapped.
Part of his overachiever fantasy belief about himself is that he could stop if people would just quit pushing his buttons. The fact is everyone gets their buttons pushed sometimes, even by loved ones. Therefore, his desire to control the events that trigger his rage is like trying to insist that it never rain so that you do not have to drive in bad weather. It is an impossible goal and a sign of his belief that he is capable of such grand feats. Expecting you and your children to always be perfect and to never ever annoy him is ludicrous. That is not a real relationship. You become merely puppets in his staged life.
Even if you were capable of behaving in a way that never triggered his anger, the truth is that a bad day at work, an accidental car wreck, something completely beyond your control can still trigger his rage and you are still likely to be the receiver of his anger even if you had nothing to do with it, because he is still trying to maintain his public persona. It is because he loves you and feels safe with you that he gives himself permission to take it out on you. It is not your fault that he cannot handle his anger issues. Nobody is clever enough, careful enough, funny enough, sexy enough, nurturing enough, loving enough, etc. to fix his entire world so that he never has to have a bad day.
This article is not about how to escape, but about the man’s belief that he is capable of self-control and that it is somehow the woman’s fault or the child’s fault for upsetting him. The fact that the fault is placed elsewhere is a sign that the man does not want to see himself as less than admirable. Until someone can get him to realize that it takes real courage and personal strength to face his demons, he probably will not consider getting any kind of outside help from mental health professionals specializing in these sorts of problems.
He really believes his vow to never allow himself to hurt you again. I am not saying you should forgive and forget, and trust him over and over again. You or one of your children could very well end up in the hospital or even dead. I am saying that the reason he is so believable and it is so easy for you to fall for his promises again and again, is because he really truly means it from the depth of his heart and soul.
He really does not want to hurt you or the kids ever again. He does love you. It is his mental health problem, not yours. You can believe him that he means it, know that he wants to keep his promises to you, understand him better, and even find forgiveness in your heart. Most importantly, you can forgive yourself for wanting so much for his promises to come true.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you for wanting the relationship to work out and wanting to believe that this time he will be able to control himself. However, you still have to be smart and protect yourself and your children. Educate yourself about the dynamic you are going through. Find resources, even if they are with strangers at a shelter. They will believe you and they can help you.
Love him, forgive him, encourage him to get professional help, but do not stay in danger any longer.
Need someone to talk to about life's challenges?
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Monday, May 06, 2013
Parenting Taurus's Children - Looking Up Newsletter
May 6, 2013
Looking Up Newsletter
Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
We are in the middle of packing up our old home and preparing to move it all into the new home across town. My house is a disaster zone. I am really looking forward to when this process is over. It is my hope that by this time next week we can get back into a “normal” rhythm and routine again.
take care,
Skye Thomas
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May 2013 Aries Horoscope
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May 2013 Gemini Horoscope
May 2013 Cancer Horoscope
May 2013 Leo Horoscope
May 2013 Virgo Horoscope
May 2013 Libra Horoscope
May 2013 Scorpio Horoscope
May 2013 Sagittarius Horoscope
May 2013 Capricorn Horoscope
May 2013 Aquarius Horoscope
May 2013 Pisces Horoscope
May 2013 Taurus Horoscope
May 2013 Gemini Horoscope
May 2013 Cancer Horoscope
May 2013 Leo Horoscope
May 2013 Virgo Horoscope
May 2013 Libra Horoscope
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Love's Dance
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An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
Aries 2013 Horoscopes
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Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Why Do I Keep Falling in Love With the Wrong People?
An Astrological Guide to Finding Love and Long-Term Companionship
Aries 2013 Horoscopes
Taurus 2013 Horoscopes
Gemini 2013 Horoscopes
Cancer 2013 Horoscopes
Leo 2013 Horoscopes
Virgo 2013 Horoscopes
Libra 2013 Horoscopes
Scorpio 2013 Horoscopes
Sagittarius 2013 Horoscopes
Capricorn 2013 Horoscopes
Aquarius 2013 Horoscopes
Pisces 2013 Horoscopes
Beyond the Inner Critic
When All Else Fails, Find Your Heart's Song and Sing Louder!
Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
Voices: Divinity or Insanity?
Who is Skye Thomas?
Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.
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Quote of the Week:
We are born at a given moment, in a given place and, like vintage years of wine, we have the qualities of the year and of the season of which we are born. Astrology does not lay claim to anything more. - Carl Gustav Jung
Get mad, then get over it. - Colin Powell
If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings. - Brian Tracy, American Author/Speaker/Businessman
Feature Article of the Week:
Taurus’s Child
Whenever I think of Taurus, I think of Ferdinand the Bull. He prefers to sit peacefully in a beautiful field of clover happily munching away the hours. However, wave that red flag and he is charging with horns down at full speed like a locomotive. It is just as difficult to stop him once he has begun charging as it is to get him up out of the clover to begin with. Such is the case with your Taurus child. They will be a peaceful happy soul for the most part, but it will not take very long before you realize they are one of the most stubborn signs in the zodiac. Once motivated, they will work very hard and they seldom do anything foolish without thinking through the consequences first.
It is not so much that they are trying to be ornery and disagreeable; they really do love a peaceful calm environment. They are quite sensitive and once they find a system that works for them, they want to maintain the status quo so as not to create chaos and mess it all up again. They are stubborn about not wanting things to change because they simply liked things the way they were. In order to get your Taurus child to embrace a new concept, you should tell them about it ahead of time. Give them time to mull it over in their head for a while and to decide for themselves that yes this would be a nice change. Give them time to think through how it could be done in a peaceful manner.
One of the most difficult things for a Taurus child is moving to a new home. Leaving all of their old friends and the comfy security of their old bedroom is really hard on them. Give them lots of time to adjust to the idea before the move. If it is possible, show them the new house many times before the actual moving day. Let them walk through it with you imagining the way they will set up their new room. Allow them some time to maybe meet the new neighbor kids before moving in. These sorts of steps make it so much easier for them rather than to make an abrupt change.
Another example of this sort of approach is when your child is enjoying a play date with friends and you need to end the visit. Tell them ahead of time, “Honey, we are going to have to leave in about 20 minutes so you’ll need to finish up what you’re doing and be ready to help clean-up when I give you the five minute signal.” Then in fifteen minutes, come back and tell them that it is time for clean-up and goodbyes. This sort of pre-notice will help them to cope with change and transitions.
One of your biggest challenges with the Taurus child is going to be teaching them how to maintain their temper. Luckily, they have a nice long fuse and it takes them quite a while to get worked up, but they have a really hard time coming back down off of their rage. The greatest gift you can give them is to teach them how to stop and find logical solutions to the problems that have caused them to become so upset. Get them to brainstorm other solutions and to tap into their deep thoughtful minds. If you give into their anger and bullying, then they will naturally assume that it is an effective way to solve problems. Teach your Taurus not to go bulldozing through their problems like a bull in a china shop. Teach them how to carefully pick a path that will get them back to a happy peaceful place again. That is always their real goal when they are angry, is to get rid of the problem and to get back to happiness.
You will find your Taurus child is a very loyal and kind child most of the time. They really love their friends and family from a deep genuine place in their hearts and want to be loved back at that same level. Taurus children are rarely superficial and flighty about anything, and prefer real heartfelt connections.
Taurus children love hugs and kisses more than most. Unlike an Aquarius child who is more likely to enjoy hearing the words, “I love you,” the Taurus child is more likely to enjoy the big bear hugs and sitting in your lap. Like Scorpio, physical touch is very important to the Taurus child, but it has more to do with the simple pleasure of feeling warm and cozy, then it does the deep psychological meaning that Scorpio attributes to it. With lots of hugs involved, you will probably find that Taurus children are very easy to raise.
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Monday, April 29, 2013
Mirroring Reflections - Looking Up Newsletter
April 29, 2013
Looking Up Newsletter
Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
I’ve been compiling this newsletter and sending it out every week since November of 2004. I’ve always used my own articles as the feature articles. In the first 14 months, I pounded out over 180 articles and then added a few more each year since then. There’s probably around 200 articles being shuffled through this newsletter and at 52 newsletters per year, it means that I only have to repeat an article every three of four years, but still… I’m bored and tired of reading my own work. Nothing negative, I’m just in the mood to read something new and different. So...
I’ve decided to open the newsletter up to guest writers. I am also going to add a section to the website where I can post the works of other writers. Since I’m in the middle of packing and moving into a new home, the website portion of this will not happen for at least a few weeks. I’ll let you know when it’s ready. In the meantime, you, your friends, and/or your loved ones can send submissions to me via email to Newsletter@TomorrowsEdge.net. This is a temporary set up until something more permanent can be set up. Please include a short professional bio (not a big long essay about yourself) and links to your own website or other self-professional page if you would like me to point some traffic in your direction too.
The articles should be at least 500 words but not more than about 1500. If it’s REALLY awesome and longer than that, I will probably still post it to the website, but I might or might not feature it in this newsletter. We receive grumpy feedback if the articles get too long, too political, too preachy, or too controversial.
Still, I don’t mind showcasing something rather thought-provoking and eye-opening despite its lack of happy joyful energy. Sometimes, we have to face the darker and uglier side of life in order to fix problems and/or to appreciate how good we have it. I know from demographic information gathered at Alexa.com that my readers are more educated and more successful professionally than the average Internet reader. So, I know that you will all understand what I’m saying about sometimes having to face reality despite preferring a life of rainbows and butterflies.
This week’s feature article is not really an article. A friend of mine sent it to me years ago within an email discussion we were having. Much of his email musings are written in this deeply thoughtful and elegant manner. I’ve always thought he could be a great writer if he wanted to, but his love is music and engineering. He has some lovely photography based websites that I’m hoping to get permission to link to if and when he gives me permission to post this “article” in the new upcoming guest writer section of the website. So far, he’s given me permission to share this piece with you. I found it quite beautiful in its simultaneous simplicity and depth. I hope you enjoy chewing on it over the next week.
take care,
Skye Thomas
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Inspirational Articles For Getting Past Those Days When Nothing Seems To Be Going Right
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Quote of the Week:
There is not a more mean, stupid, dastardly, pitiful, selfish, spiteful, envious, ungrateful animal than the Public. It is the greatest of cowards, for it is afraid of itself. - William Hazlitt
What is powerful is when what you say is just the tip of the iceberg of what you know. - Jim Rohn
To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to. - Kahlil Gibran
Feature Article of the Week:
Mirroring Reflections
Near me is a sheltered care residence for the mentally ill. They don’t need to be confined, but they need help. My wanderings often take me past this melancholy place.
The residents loiter outside, smoking, sitting on the benches, rocking to the Thorazine. They wear old, worn, institutional clothes – whatever they had on when they went in; what loved ones bring, if they have anyone; cast-offs from charity; what the State doles out.
They have a haunted look – shoulders rounded, heads down, shuffling along aimlessly, going nowhere. They’re unkempt, not altogether clean. The men have the beards you get when you don’t bother to shave. It’s a life of meds and neglectful custody.
I could have become one of these people, sitting there with them, swaying back and forth from the medication, smoking stubs of generic cigarettes, waiting for the next meal, the next meds call – the high points of each day. No one to visit me, no friends, no money to go anywhere, nowhere to go. Maybe we’d have movies in the dining room on weekends. Seeing these people I say to myself, “There but for the grace of God...” I was almost driven to that one-way journey into despair.
After my hospitalizations, people told me I should enter a residence, that I couldn’t make it on my own. Sometimes, alone in the darkness, I believed them. It was tempting – have my physical needs met, no worries about job or rent or food – the State would drug me, feed me, give me a bed. No life, just a sufferable tomb. It was so hard not to crumble, let the State take over. I resisted the pressure because I was stubborn and contrary.
This residence is across the street from Chicago’s Lincoln Park, a large and beautiful area with a zoo, museums, lagoons with geese, the Lake. It’s a pleasantly upscale neighborhood, the Starbucks crowd invading and taking over. I see these people, too – the ones who sneer at the shelter residents, thinking that they’re different – people whose day is ruined if they get whole milk in their latte, who condescend to ride the trains, standing aloof with their coffee, blocking the doorways, too self-important to bother moving.
I could have been one of those people. I was a paralegal, living in that area. Had I not fallen ill, I might have made a career, earned a living wage, bought a condo, married, become another Starbucks asshole. When I see those people I say to myself, “There but for the grace of God...” They must feel the same about me.
I pass these memories of what might have been, awed at the broken path that led me between the possibilities, wondering whether I was the lucky one. I kept my independence without losing my soul.
And then I wonder: Was it worth it?
By guest writer Baruch Ben-David
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Monday, April 22, 2013
Storytelling and Lying - Looking Up Newsletter
April 22, 2013
Looking Up Newsletter
Looking Up Newsletter
Good morning,
I’ve been sitting here thinking about all that has happened in Boston since last Monday morning while I was thinking about what to write in this first section of the newsletter. And I sigh and try to shake it from my head, trying to focus on something more upbeat and positive, as it still lingers, fighting for my attention.
So, today is Earth Day. Maybe we can each plant a tree or a flower to sort of honor both the beauty of this rock that we travel through the heavens upon and those who have been effected by last week’s nightmares.
take care,
Skye Thomas
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Quote of the Week:
The trouble with talking too fast is you may say something you haven't thought of yet. - Ann Landers
Few things are more satisfying than seeing your children have teenagers of their own. - Doug Larson
The Golden Rule of Parenting is; Do unto your children as you wish your parents had done unto you! - Louise Hart
Feature Article of the Week:
Learning How to Tell a Lie
My desk sits in the middle of the dining room. From my chair, I can see the front door and entryway, the main entrance to the hallway, the kitchen, and of course the dining room. I can also see most of the backyard through the dining room window. I can hear almost everything that happens in both bathrooms because they share the same wall that my desk faces. There isn’t much that goes on in this house that I don’t know about. Anyone who has ever worked from home with a toddler understands this kind of set up. Yes, it would be quieter and more productive if I moved my desk into one of the other rooms and could close a door behind me. However, I picked this house because of the layout. I need to be aware of everything my toddler is doing while I pound away at my keyboard. It is not just for his basic safety, but also for the sake of my two teenagers. You see, my little darling has begun learning the fine art of lying. And the other kids are furious with him!
Yesterday for example, I was sitting here working while my teenage daughter was doing dishes in the kitchen right behind me. There is a countertop division between the dining room and the kitchen so I can easily chat with my teenagers while they are cooking or cleaning up in there. She was singing along with the radio and minding her own business while cleaning. My oldest son had taken my toddler outside to play. My youngest son, the toddler, suddenly walks into the house and marches right up to my desk to announce that his sister, who is still washing dishes, just smacked him across the face really hard and that she needs to go to time-out right this minute.
My oldest son who was fast on his trail coming in behind insisted that she was innocent because she hadn’t even been outside with them. I knew that already. I pointed out this flaw in my little one’s tale as he sat there looking like a mischievous little leprechaun quite pleased with himself for coming up with such a great story. I asked him if he was lying to me. He was sure that he wasn’t, because that’s not okay. However, he also stuck to his story that yes she had just slapped him. His eyes lit up with great pride as everyone got worked up over his accusations. He was really quite tickled with himself. So, I changed my approach and I asked him to tell me the truth. “Well the truth is… nobody smacked me.” He then was more than happy to apologize to his sister for telling such a story.
All children discover at some time that lying, if done well, can get them out of trouble. It is a sign of logical cognitive development that a child can wrap their mind around the concept that a well-told story could save them from disciplinary actions that might be forthcoming. It makes sense. First, we read stories to them and let them watch their little movies and television shows. Then, they get to a point where they too want to tell stories, so they make some up. We have all heard the charming silly little make-believe stories of extremely young children. They are telling us these stories as a gift of entertainment. Story-telling by nature is really the spinning of an elaborate made up lie. They do not see anything wrong with these stories. And since we are tickled with their little tales of teddy bears, cowboys, and dragons, they assume that story-telling is a socially acceptable form of entertainment and it is a great way to engage others in conversation.
Somewhere along the way, they realize that story-telling can sometimes get them out of trouble. They are looking at it from a logical self-preservation perspective. Of course we have to teach them the difference between entertaining stories and lies. What is the difference? A story does not harm anyone or deceive anyone. A lie is harmful to others or is intentionally deceptive in nature. So in vocabulary words that make sense to them, we have to explain the difference. My little guy knows that lies are bad, but he does not really understand what lies are. He does however know what telling the truth means. So, when I want him to confess, I have to ask him for the truth. If I simply say, “Don’t lie to me.” He really has no idea what I am talking about and is adamant that since he was not intentionally being bad, he must not have been doing anything bad, and therefore he must not have been lying. It is important that they fully grasp the definitions of the words that we are using when we are teaching these kinds of ideas to our young children.
I am trying to teach my teenagers that when he tells stories about them, like the one that he told on his sister, he is not actually doing it because he is angry and trying to be vindictive in order to get her punished for something that she did not do. That will come later in his development, but he is not there yet. When children are really small and first start lying, they really do not grasp the concept that their lies could harm someone else. At this point in time, he likes to play house and role-play different conversations that we all have with each other. Like most young children, he is a mimic. Therefore, he wants to play the game of ‘Sissy being sent to time-out’ simply as if they were playing at a game of make-believe. It is no different to him than when he sits in my chair and announces that he is now ‘the mama.’ He thinks he is engaging all of us into a delightful one-act play in which he is the director. That is why he has the charming little twinkle in his eye and an impish grin on his face as everyone gets so worked up. He thinks that we are all playing a delightful game that he has orchestrated.
Most people dealing with very young children first learning how to lie are understandably shocked and angered that their child would do such a thing. Most of us want to nip it in the bud immediately and make sure that they do not become habitual liars. The most important thing to remember is to look at their motivation first - are they trying to engage others in some make-believe entertainment? Are they trying to get out of trouble? Are they deliberately trying to get someone else into trouble? Look at their motivation and then find words that they can fully comprehend to teach them why it is okay to tell stories, but not okay to lie.
Make it easy for them to know the difference between truth and stories. You have to role model truth-telling and story-telling in a way that it is really simple and easy for them to tell the difference. Use silly voices like cartoon characters and make lots of goofy over exaggerated facial expressions and body movements when you are telling them stories and then be very serious and obvious when you are telling them the truth. This way, they too can modify their presentation of story-telling so that everyone will know when they are just teasing and when they are serious.
Eventually, they will learn the uglier forms of lying, and you will have to set up disciplinary consequences that show them that you are serious when you tell them that lying is not okay. Teach them the value of truth and make it safe for them to come clean by telling the truth. If they are only going to get into more trouble for admitting that their story is not true, then what is the benefit to confessing? If your child gets punished just the same for lying and for telling the truth, then you are in effect telling them that lying is worth a shot. You have to make honesty a more valuable choice for them. Be very aware of how you dole out punishments. Make sure you explain to them that the first punishment is for the crime that was committed (if it warrants one in your opinion). Then tell them that you are going to administer a second punishment for lying. That way, it becomes clear to them that lying is compounding their problems more often than not. If lying causes them more grief than telling the truth, then they will usually opt for the truth.
Nothing teaches children more about how much we truly value honesty then to see the adults around them speaking with integrity and admitting to their own mistakes. If our children see us covering up the truth to keep from looking bad in other people’s eyes, they will do the same thing. “Do as I say, not as I do” will never cut it when teaching children not to lie. They are watching and listening to everything going on around them. Speak truth and they will follow your lead.
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