Skye Thomas

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Writer, Rebel, and Soapbox Ranter

Monday, November 02, 2015

When It Is Time to Create Personal Transformation - Looking Up Newsletter

November 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

I have been on a high fat low carb (moderate protein) diet since May. The health benefits have been wonderful. (I highly recommend doing some research into the ketogenic diet.)

However, I ate Halloween candy over the weekend. I hadn’t even eaten fruit outside of the occasional avocado or tomato over the last few months. So, I had expected the sweets to be exhilarating and wonderful. Instead, I found the sugary treats tasting of metal and a weird chemical flavor. Apparently, the taste buds are not overly fond of this processed sugar once the cycle is broken.

I also feel as if I have a horrendous 2-day hangover despite not consuming any kind of alcohol or “drugs”. I won’t preach, but you might want to educate yourselves about the “drug” that is processed sugar. It is quite fascinating and rather disappointing.

take care,
Skye Thomas


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Quote of the Week:

There’s nothing like rejection to make you do an inventory of yourself. – James Lee Burke

You can understand and relate to most people better if you look at them -- no matter how old or impressive they may be -- as if they are children. For most of us never really grow up or mature all that much -- we simply grow taller. O, to be sure, we laugh less and play less and wear uncomfortable disguises like adults, but beneath the costume is the child we always are, whose needs are simple, whose daily life is still best described by fairy tales. - Leo Rosten

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat. – Theodore Roosevelt



Feature Article of the Week:


Recreating Yourself

So, it’s time for a change. You have taken that hard look in the mirror and you have decided that you are not who you want to be. Or perhaps you are standing at a fork in the road and the path you would like to take requires you to make some changes. Maybe you are just really bored with your life because you have been in the same old rut for so long that you could start screaming if you spend another day doing the same incredibly boring things all over again. The reasons for change are as varied as the people making the decision to do so. The only thing you have to remember is that the change must come from you, not from someone else. And it cannot be a gift to someone else; that seldom works out in the long run. We simply cannot muster enough of the continuous self-motivation needed in order to make big personal changes when we do not agree that a change is actually needed. Ultimately, recreating ourselves is a very personal choice and a very personal decision that others really cannot help us with.

Your wife thinks you drink too much and should quit. Your parents think you screw off too much and need to pull better grades. Your boss thinks you are a slacker and you need to be more productive. If the people in your life are hammering you to change, then it may be time to take a long hard look in the mirror. To some extent, you have to be open to the idea that they may be right. However, they are not you. They cannot walk in your shoes. Nobody can completely totally understand another person. Only you really know what is right for you. Only you can pick your path in life, your choice of companionship along the way, and what kind of person you will be while traveling. Some people are misunderstood visionary geniuses. Others are simply rebellious or lazy. Most of us fall somewhere in between. You cannot let others dictate who or what you are to become. The choice to recreate yourself must come from within.

If you have looked deep within and you have decided that you want to change because you would be happier, then it is time to start. My personal moment came when I realized that I was only twenty-five and was never ever going to fall in love again and was going to be shattered and heartbroken for another fifty years or so before I would finally roll over and die. Yes, I know that it was a very morbid thought, but that is exactly my point. At some point you do the math asking yourself, “If I stay just like this – on this path – with this mindset – with this income level – with these people surrounding me – with this lifestyle – how will my life look in five years? In ten? In fifty?” It can be an incredibly sobering and depressing answer. Mine was, so I made a decision to change who I was so that the next fifty years would at least be different with a chance of happiness. You may be reading this because you too have decided that your life will be miserable if you do not make some kind of big changes. So, now that the decision has been made, where do we start?

The first thing I would recommend is looking at your natural gifts. If you do not know what your gifts, talents, and assets are, then you need to spend some time finding out what they are. Take some online personality tests, ask friends and family, spend time with a therapist, or figure out some other way to take an honest evaluation of yourself and take note of the good things that you bring to any situation. The idea is to find those core aspects of ourselves that are never really going to change very much. For example, do you like to work alone or as part of a team? You may be extremely introverted or extroverted. You may be incredibly musical or you may be very mathematical. The gifts and challenges you were born with are part of your authentic real self. Recreating yourself is not about denying the root of who you are. It is about molding and shaping the other things like attitude, behavior, presentation, and such.

In my situation, I looked at what kind of person I would have been if nobody had ever hurt me. If nobody had ever been mean, critical, unfaithful, etc. who would I be today? Who would I have been if I had been raised by ideal perfect parents in an ideal perfect family? I imagined the “unbroken” me as someone much more confident, bubbly, and joyful. I imagined that I would have been one of those people who laugh aloud without worrying about snorting or making a donkey heehaw noise. I imagined someone fabulous and fearless. I imagined someone who did not have an inner-critic harping and nagging at them that they needed to spend more time self-censoring so as not to make any foolish mistakes and not to give anyone a reason to point and laugh at me. Ask yourself those same types of questions; who would you be if everything had been emotionally, physically, and spiritually healthy in your life and nothing bad had ever happened to you?

Next, I asked myself, “What’s stopping me from being that unbroken version of myself now?” It was easy to look back at everything that had caused me to NOT be that fabulous version of myself. So then the next question was, “Okay, so they screwed you up, they raised you wrong, they cheated on you, they abandoned you, etc. Now what? Will you spend the rest of your life being the person they created or will you be the person you were really meant to be?” And that was the biggest turning point for me. That is the moment when I decided to take “me” back from “them” and to become the person I should have been if nothing bad had ever happened. You can do this too. “Who would you be if nobody ever screwed you over? And will you allow them to stay in charge of who you are, or will you take control of your own personality and decide for yourself who and what you are?”

At first, I had to fake it and pretend to be “the real me”, but eventually over time, I came to realize that it was actually much easier to be this “new” me instead of that “old broken” version of me. I chose careers that matched my natural likes and dislikes, my natural gifts and talents, etc. I chose partners who liked me when I was not pretending to be some perfect woman for them. I dumped people from my life that did not like the “real” uncensored version of me. I am not saying I ran around burping, farting, and being an annoying brat. I am saying that I did not beat myself up anymore over every tiny little thing anymore. I learned to quiet my inner-critic and stop letting old fears and doubts rule my every decision. “What if they don’t like me? What if I screw up? What if I fail? What if they are right and I’m just a loser?” I stopped letting those questions hold me back. Who cares what “they” say?! You too can give yourself permission to be the “real” you, the “unbroken” you.

Now a word of warning: Sometimes the people who knew us before we made all of the personal changes refuse to see us as new and improved. This is especially true of family members. They knew you when you were a whiny kid. They knew you when you went through that really bad divorce and turned into a real nutcase. Sometimes they have their own ugly issues to work out and are bitter that you are role modeling positive changes. It is easier said than done, but believe me when I say this – It is none of your business what they think of you. You did not change yourself so that they would like you better. You changed so that you would like you better. Hold your head up high and laugh aloud with confidence and joy. Do not allow anyone to take your new life away from you.


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Friday, October 02, 2015

Asking for Permission to Live Your Life - Looking Up Newsletter

October 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

Pumpkin flavored things are everywhere! And the Christmas decorations are sneaking into my local stores. But the weather is still hot and summer’y here. This is all odd and wrong! ;)

take care,
Skye Thomas


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October 2015 Monthly Horoscopes

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Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



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Quote of the Week:

In my writing I am acting as a map maker, an explorer of psychic areas... a cosmonaut of inner space, and I see no point in exploring areas that have already been thoroughly surveyed. - William S. Burroughs

I love quotations because it is a joy to find thoughts one might have, beautifully expressed with much authority by someone recognized wiser than oneself. - Marlene Dietrich

Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief she is beautiful. - Sophia Loren



Feature Article of the Week:


Permission Granted

She sees a cute guy across the room and asks her friends, “Should I go talk to him?” Yes! Go!

She turns around gazing at herself in the dressing room mirror. “What do you think? Should I buy it? It’s more than I was going to spend.” Yes! You look awesome in that dress!

She hears about a new position opening up in another department and asks her coworkers over lunch, “What do you think? Should I apply for it?” Yes! Do it!

Why do so many of us ask permission in life? Why do we need outside approval to make us feel that it is okay to go after our dreams? It seems as if so many of us feel a little guilty, selfish, or arrogant if we give ourselves permission to make big bold moves towards our goals. It is as if the inner critic is asking, “Just who do you think you are?” We need our friends to play the role of cheerleaders and we need them to give us permission to aspire to more. If someone else gives me permission, then I’ll go ahead and do it!

“Personal growth” is getting to that point in life where you are your own cheerleader; you give yourself permission to dream big and to go after those dreams. There will always be a place in our hearts for dear friends that cheer us on, but knowing that you do not NEED them in order to go after your goals is a powerful thing. Sometimes our friends are busy, out of town, or simply unaware of our needs. You cannot hold yourself back just because there is nobody around to give you permission to move forward.

Did Amelia Earhart need to ask permission? Did Harriet Tubman ask permission? Did Margaret Thatcher ask permission? Did Cher or Madonna ask permission? Did Susan B Anthony ask permission? Did Hillary Clinton ask permission? Did Oprah or Ellen ask permission? The history books are full of women who did great things, entertaining things, fun things, and sometimes very important and controversial things without ever asking permission first.

And the world is full of everyday women that you will never read about in the papers, they will never be famous, they are mothers, employees, sisters, business owners, daughters, and everything kind of woman imaginable. And they do small things, big things, brave things, and adventurous things all of the time without asking permission first. Sometimes they fail and sometimes they succeed. They grow, they learn from their mistakes, they inspire others, and they are our everyday heroes. Why not you? Why shouldn’t you be one of those brave women who say, “Why not?” when an opportunity presents itself?

What is it that you need to have happen before you can give yourself permission to be happy, successful, funny, sexy, or whatever else you are waiting for? Do you need somebody to come along and give you permission to be wonderful? Do you need to practice giving yourself permission on a few small issues first? Maybe practice saying, “Yes, I can” on some relatively unimportant topics first? Then as you grow more self-assured, you can give yourself permission to go after some small dreams, then some bigger dreams? Do you need to give yourself permission to fail and to be less than perfect once in a while so that you will not feel bad if things do not work out perfectly every single time? Do you need someone to anoint you as “good enough” first and then you will believe it and start giving yourself permission to take chances and go after your dreams?

Start by giving yourself permission to screw up. Then move on to giving yourself permission to succeed once in a while. After that, it gets much easier; most of our efforts fall somewhere in between. As you begin to succeed more often, you will get braver and it will not be so difficult to take chances and to try new things.

What if nobody ever gives you permission? Will you regret it years from now when you are an old woman? Will you beat yourself up for waiting around for someone else to give you permission? Will you be okay with NEVER living out your dreams because you waited for someone else to deem you worthy of achieving them? Don’t you owe it to yourself to at least try?

What if nothing bad happens? What if it turns out okay and you really had no reason to be afraid of taking a chance after all? What if you got yourself all worked up over nothing? What if you stopped yourself from going after your dreams and they were completely obtainable? What if your fears were not based in reality? What if behind the scenes, things were really much easier than you assumed?

And more importantly, what if you are fabulous? What if you were meant to be clever, sassy, inspirational, or brilliant? What if you were meant to succeed and role model confidence and a “can-do” attitude for your friends, your daughters, your sister, or your mother? What if they are waiting to see if you succeed before taking their own frightening first steps towards their goals and dreams? What if you were meant to be amazing?

What if your gift somehow makes the world a better place? What if your small success is a stepping-stone for someone else who is about to do something magnificent? What if he is your prince charming and nobody is around to give you permission to walk up to him and introduce yourself? What if that dress is just the thing to give you more confidence and nobody is around to give you permission to splurge on yourself? What if you are the best person for the job and nobody knows it because you have been playing small and unimportant? Why not you? Why ask permission? Why wait for outside approval? What if it is exhilarating?!


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Tuesday, September 01, 2015

The Last Day of “Who Cares?” - Looking Up Newsletter

September 1st, 2015
Looking Up Newsletter

Hello everyone,

When I wrote today’s feature article, my oldest son was entering high school and my youngest was 2 years old. Now, they are 26 and 14. Time flies. We had a lovely end-of-summer beach day this last Sunday as my youngest was heading back to school on Monday. It reminded me of this article and I’ve been thinking about it a lot ever since.

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Skye Thomas


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September 2015 Monthly Horoscopes

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Who is Skye Thomas?

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To read more about Skye and to read archives of this free weekly newsletter, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.



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Quote of the Week:

Words cannot be remote from reality when they create reality. – John Cowper Powys

I am influenced by words and the chewiness of language. - E. Annie Proulx

Half of what I say is meaningless; but I say it so that the other half may reach you. - Kahlil Gibran



Feature Article of the Week:


The Last Day of “Who Cares?”

Yesterday was the last day of “Who Cares?” for my oldest child. Today is his first day of high school. From now on, his choices will have a long-term effect on his life. Nothing will ever be the same for him.

Our culture does not make a big deal of that moment when a teen is officially considered an adult. Many older more traditional cultures create ceremonies so the teen and everyone around him knows that from that day forward he is considered an adult and is expected to behave as such. By the time they are old enough to move out, they have had a few years to get comfortable with the idea that they are adults. In America, we just say that at the age of eighteen you are old enough to vote, to get married, to serve your country, to go to jail, and to move out of your parent’s home. There is no ceremony, no transition, no empowering.

If we are honest, we have to admit that by the time our children enter into high school, our influence has seriously dropped off. That is not to say that our love, presence, and role modeling is not still crucial. It’s just that we have already taught them most of the really important stuff that we were going to teach them. We have taught them to believe in themselves, or we haven’t. We have taught them about religion, or we haven’t. We have taught them the Golden Rule, or we haven’t. We have taught them to say no to drugs and premarital sex, or we haven’t. You get the idea. By the time our children are entering into high school they know what we think of life and what we think of them. They know if our approach to life and towards them is basically optimistic or not. They know if we value higher education or not.

I told my son the truth, “From the day you walk through those doors into high school, I no longer have any real control over your life. You are in charge. If you decide to flunk out of school, there is nothing I can do about it. If you decide to blow off my rewards and punishment systems, there isn’t a darn thing I can do to stop you. If you blow your grades, all I can do is deny you driving privileges. Legally, I don’t have to let you drive. Otherwise, I can’t really do much to force you to be a good student. I cannot force you to stay clean and sober. I cannot force you to surround yourself with quality people.

You stand four inches taller than me and weigh as much as I do. What am I going to do? Spank you? Put you in time-out? I can ground you only if you agree with me that you should be grounded and only if you choose to honor my authority. I cannot physically force you to stay home at night. I cannot physically force you to show up for classes. Your size alone dictates that I no longer have power over you. I can only lead from a place of having earned your respect.

Up until now, nobody really cared what kind of grades you got. The grades you get now affect whether or not you get into a college. The grades you get now affect whether or not you get scholarship money. Whether or not you join in student government, compete in sports, participate in the arts, it all matters now. The grades you get and the activities you choose to participate in now affect your placement in society when that precious eighteenth birthday occurs.

Will you be a high school dropout or will you be going away to the university of your choice entering into a field of study that fascinates you? Will there be scholarship money to pay for your schooling or will you be forced to struggle and work your way through school? The grades you get now affect how hard you will have to work in the future. The better your grades, the more activities you excel in, and the longer you stay in school, the easier you will have it later.

From this day forward, you are in charge of your destiny. You decide. How much paid vacation do you want as an adult? How many nice toys will you be able to purchase? How nice of a place will you live in? How important are expensive clothes to you? How many hours per week will you want to work to support your children? Will you travel? Will you love your job? You actually have the power now to start choosing for yourself and designing for yourself what your future will look like. You do not have the rights or responsibilities of an adult yet, but you do have the power to create your own dreams. That means that from this point forward you are secretly in charge of your future.

As a toddler, I taught you society’s opinions of right and wrong. As a child, I taught you the laws of cause and effect. Throughout the process, I did my best to help you find your unique and beautiful authentic self. You are not legally free to leave and do as you please, but you are now at that point where I have to teach you how to create a life for yourself that is meaningful and worthy of you and your incredible heart. From this day forward, you get to choose your soul’s journey.

Yesterday, you played at the beach as a carefree child. Today, you began your journey into adulthood. From this point forward people are watching, they care about your work ethic, your personal conduct, who you surround yourself with, and who you have chosen to become. You have four years to design and build your wings. They will carry you when you leave the nest. Choose wisely, my dear.

Who cares? You do.”


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